Should I tell him I’m pregnant

[Lozzy199707]

not sure I posted in the right topic but just looking for advice!
so I’ve been seeing this guy for about five months and he’s made it clear from the start he doesn’t want any more kids but Last Thursday I found out I’m pregnant.
we was both being careful but it happens I guess.
so I’ve have made my decision to have an abortion, (i have 3 kids already and the whole situation isn’t ideal for a new baby) but my question is should I tell him I’m pregnant and that am having an abortion or don’t tell him I’m pregnant and have an abortion behind his back.
my head has been a complete mess since I found out and I’m scared he might end things with me if I tell him but I feel I need to be honest because I do really like this guy, I’ve felt like this before, I just don’t know what to do!! Any advice would help please

If you think he'll pressure you to change your mind I wouldn't tell him until the last minute (and perhaps not at all).

It's not a baby and it's her body. It's none of his business.

I don't think he has a right to know as such because that risks him trying to change your mind. Your body your choice. But you did say he doesn't want a child?

I think a decent relationship telling him wouldn't be in question as it's a big thing you are going through and would want to talk to him about it?

Also abortion isn't exactly pleasant you may need practical support if not emotionally. If you don't feel he would do that I'd not say this is a strong relationship

What sort of relationship is it where you wouldn't tell your partner about you getting pregnant? Takes two to tango, and he's 50% responsible, make it his problem too. He's made it clear he doesn't want more kids, as have you, so there doesn't seem any worry of him trying to talk you into keeping it.

I'm fully in support of abortion but that doesn't change what it is.

so we’re not in a full on proper relationship but we do see eachother the quite regularly, but now I’ve slept onit, i do think I wouldn’t be able to sit with him or look him in the eye and not think about the abortion
am not worried he’ll talk me out of it but I do think some yall right that if tell him and he walks away then he’s not worth it,
he coming to stay at mine this weekend so am just gonna take the plunge tell him what’s what and go from there, maybe this will tell what kind of person he's really like? I don’t know but we’ll find and see soon.

Why would you end things? we’re only seeing how things go, not in a full relationship

This. Definitely.