Context: been with partner for 1 year. He's a kind man, loves me deeply, and generally I feel very happy and secure.
There is however, this one thing that's niggling at me.
He is an professional and has regular clients he sees every six / eight weeks. I won't name what he does, but it's in the same department as vet / horse foot blacksmith / that type of thing.
When we first met he talked distinctly about not having his clients on social media as he's a professional. His social media habits are very good - he's not the type of man to be liking bikini photos or following onlyfans girls.
Anyway, after Halloween last year he was scrolling Instagram next to me and a photo of a girl popped up which he'd liked previously. She was dressed in a sexy halloween costume, short dress. I immediately asked why he'd liked the photo and who it was.
It transpired she was one of his clients. She's 21 - he and I are both late thirties.
He assured me he didn't even remember liking the image, there was nothing to it and he removed her from following. I was confused as he never adds his clients on social media, and I'm not used to him liking sexy images of women. It's just not normally like him.
He insisted that there was nothing to it - it was a careless double tap. And we've not spoken about it since.
However, she's still his client. And he still sees her on a regular basis.
It's niggling at me as he's always seemingly had such distinct and strict professional boundaries with himself about his clients, but for her he made an exception by having her on social media and interacting in that way.
A part of me wants to ask him to drop her as a client - it wouldn't impact him financially as he is in demand for his services. It would make me feel more relaxed.
I know it speaks volumes about my own insecurities. Id appreciate others ' perspectives?