Am I going to end up all by myself?

[IsItAllMenopause]

Hello, hope someone can help me before I fall out with everyone!
Basically, I had my ovaries removed a couple years ago so plunged in to menopause. I've been on hrt since.
Anyway, basically I am concerned that I am going to end long term relationships because I just don't feel valued. I feel as if I have nothing in common with my best friend of nearly 40 years anymore and that she doesn't prioritise me in any way.
I am reaching the end of my tether with my husband as, again, I don't feel as if he is giving me any support. I have supported him through family bereavements, illnesses, etc. I feel as if now it is my turn, he doesn't want to know!
Any words of advice before I do something I regret! Thank you

I think the only advice is to see the situation from their position as much as you can. Sometimes when we are struggling we can be needy in ways that people don't perceive well.

Have you sat down and made it clear with your friend and husband what it is that you need from them to feel supported? It may seem obvious to you, but sometimes it isn't obvious to everyone x

Take a breath.
Focus on you.
They are probably not being aware and also dealing with their own stuff and not looking outwards.
You can find a way to ask for help and support - don't do anything rash right now because you are feeling overwhelmed.

Just breathe.

I'm wondering if this is to do with lowered estrogen. Many menopausal women start feeling differently and have less time for other's bs.

It sounds as though you've always put your needs last and haven't spoken up when necessary. You don't have to lose relationships but others need to get with the programme.

Speak to both your best friend and husband about how you feel and hopefully they'll step up.

Thank you everyone. There is something in each of your posts that definitely resonates with me. I will think about how to approach them both and what to say.
My best friend knows there is something amiss but I've been upset with her for a while now. If I try to say this to her she goes on the offensive. It was my birthday a few months ago and she said she was too busy to meet up for a coffee. I thought this was pretty crap tbh! I actually had a lovely birthday celebrating with other friends and my family but this made it seem even more obvious!
As far as my husband is concerned he's very wrapped up in his own wants and needs. A long series of bereavements have understandably taken its toll on him. Unfortunately this seems to be that he is prioritising himself at all times.
Thanks again