Is it really over if there's still love on both sides?

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In your experience, is a relationship really over even if there's still love on both sides? I still love him and I know he still loves and misses me. Both sides are so bogged down by negative circumstances. We've ended it - but should we have given up or should we have worked through it together? Relationships are full of ups and downs, should you really give in and run away? My heart is hurting so much for him.

What are the negative circumstances? In my experience it’s easy to say you love someone but unless you are willing to turn words to action make difficult decisions it’s meaningless. If you really love the person you should be honest about why you aren’t together and work out if you can overcome that

Bump

You don’t stop loving someone just because you split up. If either one of you is not willing to make the sacrifices or do the work to make it work, then that sentiment is not enough. It’s commitment you need.

No love isn’t necessarily enough.
Sometimes we grow apart.
The type of commitment we each need as we get older might not be mutually compatible.
Our interests can alter majorly and so can our entire friendship groups and attitudes to life.
And then suddenly you don’t fit together as a team, because so much has changed.
(this can happen, though it doesn’t always.)
And ending doesn’t mean running away, it can mean facing or owning up to issues instead of kicking them into the long grass and it can be incredibly brave. It can be acceptance, instead of self-denial.

Why do you think your heart is hurting so much for him? Is it because it’s hard for you and/ him to accept it’s now over? What song will always remind you of him?