DP and I have been together for 12 years, married for 7yrs and have DS 4 yrs. Prior to getting pregnant, DP adored me, fantastic to me through the pregnancy, although he completely went off sex, found the whole pregnancy, weight gain thing a big no no. I put an enormous amount of weight on when pregnant, complete eating frenzy, went from size 14 to size 24, v. scary! DP still very kind and gentle, rubbing feet, massaging back etc etc. DS born, DP great Dad, however, I found myself with beautiful baby and being horribly overweight, I found myself almost overfaced by the amount I had to lose and for 4 years have been really miserable about size and made little inroads to shifting the pounds. Over the course of the last 4 yrs our relationship has massively gone downhill, DP is now completely emotionally detached from me, he says if it wasn't for DS he would have left, I have said go, but he doesn't seem to really want to (he says he hopes to scare me into changing!) he has told me during rows in no uncertain terms that he finds me completely unattractive, even going as far as to say I am an embarrassment to him and he a complete turn off. As you can imagine that has sent my self esteem even further downhill. My strong side says he should love regardless of how I look, but I can see I no longer resemble the person phyiscally I once was and he is a man after all (not makin excuses for his cruelty though!). I am now on a successful weight loss programme and have lost 4 stones with 3 more to go, so feel I have got a grip on getting the old me back, what worries me more is that I will never be able to forgive him for his treatment of me, we have probably only had sex 10 times in the last 4 years and prior to pregnancy it was 3/4 times a week, so a massive change. Your thoughts/suggestions/support massively appreciated.