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I don’t know what to do anymore

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Dontknowwhattodofromhere · 03/02/2025 11:58

Pretty much as the title states…….I’m probably at my lowest point…….I’ve been with my partner just over 2 years, I’m due to be induced tomorrow, he constantly walks out and leaves and I get the blame for it…….I’ve been supporting him the past few months as he’s struggled to find any work, been one horrible event after another but every weekend now he is taking off with a male friend instead of us doing things together, we have another baby together and 3 kids from previous so I am left doing the child work when he disappears…..I’m not told where he is or when he will be back, can be a few days………..when he is around and not pissed off enough to leave he is a lovely person, does most of the cooking and cleans the kitchen, I do the majority of the rest………we’ve had several losses deathwise since Xmas and he tells me I don’t support him……..I decided to take the kids out alone yesterday as I’m always let down now by him so I had actually found out the most recent one yesterday prior to him and when I got back home he had disappeared again……….so when he did appear I stated we meant nothing to him which prompted him to leave yet again without a word………I have had nothing but abuse since throughout the evening, now complete silence, he will always state we’re over but then at some point return, it’s my fault he left, my fault I don’t support him, my mouth is now horrendous when I start because I’m so fed up of going through the same Jekyll and Hyde pattern…….. I just don’t know what to do anymore…….this could go on for days where I’m basically punished and then he will return at some point probably missing the birth……..I don’t really go anywhere because I’m looking after all the children and obviously heavily pregnant, what am I supposed to do?

OP posts:
TeeBee · 03/02/2025 12:00

Are the 3 children from previous relationships all yours, or are some his?

Dontknowwhattodofromhere · 03/02/2025 12:02

TeeBee · 03/02/2025 12:00

Are the 3 children from previous relationships all yours, or are some his?

2 his……..1 SD but not always here…………2 mine from previous………

OP posts:
TeeBee · 03/02/2025 12:20

Well, for a start, I'd be telling him that from now on, unless he's home to parent his child that is there part-time, not to bring her round. She is there to have time with him, not you. Push back constantly on this.
However, overall, he doesn't sound a great partner or dad and I'd be getting rid. Keep yourself as the primary carer for your joint children for now and then make moves to get him out of the house. He sounds like a general waste of your time.

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