Would this annoy you or am I going over the top?
At the end of this year I’m going to be maid of honor for a friends wedding, alongside another woman. Don’t ask. I don’t know this other woman so my friend said the 6 of us ( partners too ) should all meet up for drinks, so we can get to know eachother before the wedding. I was fine with this.
1 Saturday my friend started messaging me, saying the 4 of them were having drinks together and did we want to meet. It was round 8.30 and myself and my husband were both tired from work in the week, and it was very last minute. I kindly declined and said next time, but give us more notice. My friend kept trying to persuade me, so I started to ignore the messages in the end. Then she started to message me husband asking him. He gave the same answer. She then asked if he wanted to come on his own and leave me at home. He obviously said no and ignored any further messages too.
The next day I met my friend and bought it up. She had no idea what I was talking about. Turns out she got really drunk, and her friend took her phone and was messaging my husband. We both thought this was quite strange but didn’t think much more of it.
About a week later, I got a message at work, and it was a photo of my husband. He was outside a house, lifting some scaffold in the air. ( He’s a builder ) You could see his muscles etc. underneath was the caption, ‘Who’s fit husband is this? Maybe he can do some bits round my house next’ with a winky face. It was the other girl messaging.
I told my husband and he laughed, obviously loving the ego boost. I asked him if he thought she was attractive and he said not at all, and I had nothing to worry about.
I do trust him but I just feel this is really strange behavior. Am I going over the top? I would never take a photo of another friends husband / partner and then go on to call them ‘fit’. I think it’s really disrespectful. The girl is a bit younger than us, so maybe that’s normal behavior for younger people? I really don’t know.
I feel if I say anything I’ll come across as jealous and insecure, which I’m really not. But then if I leave it, her behaviour may start to get worse? What would everyone else do?
Chlo xx