Boy best mate promise ring

[char213]

I have a bf who I've been on and off with for a year
He's cheated on me and I've left him for my abusuve baby daddy a couple of times
We recently got back together on New Year's Eve I was planning on proposing to him on the 9th as it's our anniversary but he says he wants to wait two years until he can buy a house but I want to be at least engaged if we were to fall unexpectedly pregnant as we're not trying but also not preventing
I have fertility issues and my baby from previous relationship passed away
He doesn't like me seeing or having contact with boy best mate as he " knows how all men think"
Not all men until she has male friends
So I have to see him behind partners back
He helps me get a substance that my ex got my addicted to partner knows I've used in the past but doesn't know about current usage my ex got me addicted thinking I could only get it from him so would get addicted and stay
My birthday is in April and I asked my best mate how he would feel about getting my a promise ring as I knew he wanted to get me some jewlery

The promise ring is to signify we Will always have love for each other and put each other first even before partners
And if we’re both single at 35 we will get married and start a family together but unless that happens it’s strictly friends

Would it be weird as I have a partner ?
I wasn't planning on telling him where it came from I was going to say it was a gift from a family member

Your need help to get off whatever it is you're addicted to; you need to be healthy and setting an example for your child.
Also, neither of these men are princes. Maybe try being single, and work on loving yourself .

I'm so sorry for your loss.
It sounds like you've been having a really hard time and are seeking security so this is appealing to you. If you want it then take it but put it out of sight and do not let current partner find it.
Both of them sound unreliable and juvenile tbh so the best you could do for yourself now and for the long term would be to get clean and find a mentor/positive role model who can help you get straight and stay straight.
Then see where you are relationship wise later.

Firstly, I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your baby ❤️‍🩹

The rest of this is so unbelievably dysfunctional that I don’t know where to begin.

Neither of these men are what you need. Get some counselling for whatever has happens to you that you think any of these plans or either of these men are a good idea. One got you addicted to drugs for goodness sake.

Oh dear God. Just no. Is this a joke?

My baby passed away unfortunately I did mention it

I want to be at least engaged if we were to fall unexpectedly pregnant as we're not trying but also not preventing

Please do not bring a baby into this dreadful 'relationship'.
Agree with pp - get serious therapy to work out what is going on in your life.

You're using and are addicted to drugs but trying to get pregnant. You're in a bad relationship to one guy but want to get engaged to another toxic guy.
End things with both men and work on yourself. Absolutely don't bring a child into this, absolutely don't commit yourself further to either terrible relationship. Get some help

I'm so sorry about your baby OP.. I know what a traumatic thing that is because I've been through it.

I think you should look for help for your mental health and for your addiction
.
I don't think these men are good for you.

I know how much you must feel you need another baby but really it's not a good idea until you are in a better place and you have a decent partner.

I'm sorry, I missed that. My sincere apologies for sounding crass.

Jesus Fucking Christ.
I am very sorry about your baby but you are in no fit state to be even considering having another one.
Get some help for your addiction and also your other issues and forget men and babies for a loooong time

No why would it be ? What makes it funny ?

You want a promise ring from your drug dealer?
You sound about fourteen.
Sorry. But the whole thing seems ridiculous.

@char213

It just feels like no one would be this ridiculous. It feels like I'm being trolled.

Im sorry your baby died.

but your whole post is batshit crazy.

end your relationship and stop hanging out with the ‘friend’.

Not all men until she has male friends
loved this though.

None of it, none of it is funny

Sweetheart please step away for these men and the substances. Your life sounds like a spiral of chaos and definitely not one which should include a new baby. Get yourself some help for the addiction.

If this is genuine, then p,ease get help. Likewise if you are making it up. When we were looking to adopt we fostered some babies born of addicts, they are in so much pain.

I’m so sorry to hear about your baby. You sound very vulnerable and possibly quite young. Please get some help with your addiction so you are not dependent on anyone for this substance. I would also strongly urge you to do the Freedom Programme to help educate yourself about coercive control, as it sounds like you’ve experienced this in the past and are experiencing it again now. Having a baby with someone controlling and/or abusive will not end well, let alone it being a terrible idea to have a baby when you are an addict. I think it would be good for you to take some time to yourself to be single for the time being. You will thank yourself for it in the long run.