Feel bad but boyfriend is kinda boring…

[Indigosky4]

My boyfriend is kind and caring but just quite boring and low energy all the time. I feel like I have to bring all the energy to our days, suggest plans, make arrangements etc and he will go along.
I read a quote somewhere that said something along the lines of “is it actually fun being with him or are you the fun” (can’t remember exact words) but it made me think that we only had good times, laughs, fun together because I’m fun and I bring the laughter and good times.
this may sound so conceited and I really don’t mean that and it’s not that I’m a comedian but everything’s just so low energy, low effort with him.
has anyone ever experienced this?

So why are you with him?

I'm like your boyfriend, and my boyfriend is you. He says he likes bringing me happiness and fun, so it works for us.

Why are you with someone who's sucking the life out of you? It will completely wear you down and you'll be fed up with him never taking the initiative.

I really don’t know

T won't get any better.

I sound like your boyfriend and you would drive me mad!

Are you both happy, also how old are you? I ask as if you're starting to wonder, he may too, even if he's not quite there yet.

I am friendly with a couple who sound like you (I don't know them super closely).

I think they'll last long term as they're married, have kids and are quite traditional people but are driving each other up the wall.

She is always pushing them all to be doing something new, he just wants time to recharge. It was exciting for him at first I think and grounding for her, now I think slowly becoming a bit tedious and tiring for both. I think they will find a way as they'reb good people with a lot 'on paper' in common, already settled and aren't the types to look elsewhere (not suggesting you are) but if you're a less established and asking these questions I would probably consider whether you'd prefer to look for someone who can meet you in the middle.

Alternatively accept DP for who he is if you like his other attributes, or speak to him and whether he can be a bit more proactive sometimes and you can do things with other people or alone.

Comparability is a big question though. You can't always everything you want in someone but it depends how much you're both willing to compromise.

Doesn't sound like you are compatible.

Boring then?

I'd end it.

I was the fun one and honestly it gets really boring being the person who creates the fun. It got harder after we moved in together as dh became a homebody and was less inclined to do stuff. Then we had kids and guess who does all the organising and planning? And it turns out if dh isn't enjoying stuff ie parks and soft play, he's pretty miserable company. Eventually it wore me down (and other life events. ) And now neither of us are the fun ones.

I've been with dh 16 years and love the bones off him but I wonder if I'd still be fun if I'd done things differently

Leave him.
Believe me, it will only get worse and he will become more reliant on you.
Being with someone boring is a slow death by a thousand swords.

Leave.. That's the only thing to do do you remember how happy and full of life you was before you met him.. has he conditioned you to his way, you feel more like him then you do yourself... RUN RUN RUN

Don't be in a relationship then if you can't be assed..