I live abroad and will be staying with my DM when visiting the UK. We were very close until I had an argument with my brother and she very clearly took his side. Unfortunately our relationship suffered as there were alot of hurt feelings on my part and no accountability on hers. We 'discussed' what happened but there was no resolve and it made things worse.
She's in her 80's, doesn't have my DF to keep her in check and will not budge on anything. We talk daily but stick to the basics - weather / kids. I'm sad our relationship will never be the same but I want to move on. I don't want to revisit what happened and I want our stay to be nice for everyone.
How do I get through it?? I'm already feeling anxious. I need sayings, mantras, tools to keep my emotions in check and keep the peace.