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Personality disorder and relationships

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Kislam · 01/02/2025 20:42

I’m not sure if this topic exists already and I just didn’t find it. I am trying to get a better picture of relationships with a partner who has a personality disorder, and who accepts it. From what I have heard and read many affected people dismiss any diagnosis but I would like to know what experiences are like when a partner acknowledges that they are different.

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danid26 · 01/02/2025 21:19

Hi OP 🫶,

My husband has EUPD, (emotionally unstable personality disorder). We have been together since we were 15, we are now 30. Admittedly, it's been a total rollercoaster. I suppose it depends on your understanding of the disorder, and how they work. It's not easy, they can be absolutely wonderful but also very rude, mean, and try to push you away as much as possible, scream, shout and tantrum. We have also battled through him having multiple addictions. It's just about not taking things to personal (because it literally isn't your fault), else it will break you to. My husband had a break down, and is now under a mental health team that gave him Qautapine off licence, and that seems to have helped his moods massively!

mylovelyboycat · 01/02/2025 21:26

It probably depends on which personality disorder they have. They are all very different.

Spooky2000 · 01/02/2025 22:14

mylovelyboycat · 01/02/2025 21:26

It probably depends on which personality disorder they have. They are all very different.

Exactly. My ex has an (IMO) undiagnosed personality disorder and I did a search on here for BPD and it brought back a result, which was useful to me. Apparently a lot of PD's are (I forget the terminology), but basically 'sit' together and there's more than one. So, NPD and BPD for example.

DOES he accept it or could he be paying lip service to you?

Kudos to you for sticking around @danid26 - it really was more than I could bear, and I left to save myself in the end.

Spooky2000 · 01/02/2025 22:15

Co-morbid! That's the description I was looking for. Co-morbid - sit together.

danid26 · 01/02/2025 22:19

@Spooky2000 I totally understand why too! It's an awful lot to deal with, and can end up damaging your mental health as well, due to the turbulent life you end up having. It's certainly not been easy, I could just see a light at the end of the tunnel, but when your in the thick of it with someone that doesn't accept they need the help, leaving is absolutely 10000% what's needed. xx

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