Would this bother anyone?

[Rachelxx]

15 years ago ( before we got together ), my husband worked abroad for several months. He slept with lots of women and made lots of female friends.

Fast forward to now. I noticed on his socials he’d been chatting to a woman I wasn’t aware of. I asked him who she was and he said just a friend from abroad. He said they never hooked up but he did sleep with her friend a couple of times and they all hung out together. He quickly showed me the chat and it went on for ages. Just ‘chit chat’ apparently. I didn’t really read any of it, he just quickly scrolled though it, showing me the odd message.

Would anyone else be happy with this? He hasn’t seen this woman in over 15 years. What have they got to randomly chat about? He’d never mentioned her before either which I thought was strange.

I mentioned it to a friend and she said he could be reminiscing about it, possibly because he’s getting older and is too old for that kind of life now ( drinking / clubbing etc ).

I asked him if he thought she was attractive and he said no, he just got on well with her. She lives miles away so it’s not like he’s going to meet her, but I just think that whole thing is a bit strange.

Am I going over the top?

If you had never heard of her does that me he has very recently reconnected with her? If so I would be wondering why.

I don't think it's a good sign if he is seeking out women he knew from his past. Presumably his reminiscing Includes talking about all the women he has had sex with, even if for some reason he never had sex with this one.

If he is hankering after the " good old days " of freedom then I would wary about where that will lead him.

Well, I don't think you're overreacting, however, it may not be as big of a deal as you're making it out to be. She could be some old female companion that he does have memories with which he wanted to catch up on about life and things that may have occurred over the years. It could very well just be harmless chat. I really don't think that he has any bad intentions, he could just be revisiting his past a bit. And I know it's because of his past infidelities why you're feeling a little worried and are having trust issues, but maybe he's outgrown his old lifestyle. I don't blame you for feeling the way that you do but you need to trust him, especially if he's shown you that he hasn't been unfaithful. Aside from your suspicions about this, if he starts to show signs of infidelity then I would further investigate, but until then don't worry.
Best Wishes!!

Would anyone else be happy with this?

I'd be fine with it but then again, I'm not married to your husband and don't know him.

He hasn’t seen this woman in over 15 years. What have they got to randomly chat about?

That's not for you to be wondering is it? As your friend said, probably chatting about old times abroad.