My darling mum.

[BeStrongAndCourageous]

Is about to be diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. We’re not through the process yet but it’s clear that’s where we’re headed.

There’s only ever been me and her. She never married or even had a serious relationship. I’m an only child. She’s going to forget me, and I don’t even know who I am without her.

I'm sorry
You still shared good times together that can't be erased.

This must be so hard for you. I'm sorry. Wishing you all the best and hopefully new treatments will help x

She’s only 68. This really doesn’t seem fair.

How am I supposed to tell my kids? They adore her. She’s been in their lives every day since birth.

I'm so sorry. I realise it's not going to be easy but perhaps there's some comfort in knowing you seem to have been so close.

Think how many women post here about the dreadful, heartbreaking relationships they have with their mothers. You must have so many happy memories. And odd things can help. A friend whose mother had dementia found that playing the music of her youth had a marvellous effect on her, taking her right back.

I’m so sorry OP, it’s awful. Sending a handhold.

My father passed from dementia a good few years ago now. It was an extremely tough time being the only one looking after him so try to look after yourself a bit too.

there is some hope OP, my dad never really forgot who I was even when he could barely string two words together. He was so comforted by my presence it was a balm. Sometimes he would look at a picture of me when I was little and talk about me as if he was talking to a stranger but then would know he was talking to adult me as well. Hard to explain, like he couldn’t link us together but knew we were both his daughter.

I wish you all the very best op, and your lovely mum. How lucky she is to have you and the grandchildren. I will feel the same when it’s my mums time. Xx

She may not forget you. Don't jump ahead. My grandaunt used to also get so much comfort from my mother - she never forgot they were attached to each other. She grabbed her hand the minute we came into the room.

Much love to you and your mum and mind yourself too.