Or would this bug you too?

[Autumn95x]

DP has a beard. Hasn't always had a beard mind, met him at 18 before he could even grow one and so just for context, have loved him bare faced, stubbled and bearded. Anyway,

DP is Autistic and so because of sensory issues related to this he had always kept a fairly tidy stubbly beard, never letting it get beyond rugged territory. In the past he has asked about my opinion RE his beard and as above, I have loved his face through it all and so am completely opinion-less regarding how he chooses to have his beard, however I have commented when he's let it get on the longer more rugged side that I thought it suited him and that he looked quite handsome, although this is what I think no matter what his beard looks like.

Yesterday he was due to trim his beard as it has gotten to that rugged stage, he commented about shaving it and I gave his face a rub and made some passing comment about it looking good but that yes, it looked to be at the length that bothers him and so I figured it was trim time. He came out of the bathroom and had left his beard untrimmed, saying he would leave it be for a while as I liked it so much, with a wink and a smile. I jokingly said that it wouldn't last too long as I know it bothers him and assured him I like it no matter the length, and that was that.

Then today he comes home from work, heads straight to the bathroom after a hello kiss and comes back out with a trimmed beard. I laugh and say see? Told you it would bother you in no time. DP responds that actually it wasn't bothering him all too much it was just he thought it was looking a bit too long. I again said i thought it looked good, but again his choice and he looked good now too. DP responded that actually, the reason for the trim was that a woman he works with had commented that he looked tired and he thought it was because of the beard.
I'm not sure why this has gotten my back up a bit. Maybe because I felt my opinion of it looking good on him felt overturned by the woman's opinion that it didn't? I've always been a very secure person in myself and within our relationship and so I'm confusing myself as to why it's bothered me. (Putting it down to time of the month, mainly)

Would it make you feel the same way?
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I’d want to know why another woman felt confident enough to comment on my husbands looks.
although some people don’t realise they are overstepping and being Abit rude. Ask him outright who she is and if they are friends.

Er, no. It wouldn't.

His face. His beard.

Have you never had anyone tell you that you look tired before? Then rush about drinking lots of water and slapping on face cream by the tub for a few days?

My DM says I always look tired because I have long hair and it apparently 'drags down' my face 😆 I just ignore her, though, because I'm 53 and I only see her twice a year!

I don't get it. I think you're just having an overthinky moment tbh.

You are over thinking OP. I am sure your DP didn't value his co workers opinion about his beard more than yours but rather that he felt a bit self conscious about the comment and that's why he decided to trim it. Don't give it another thought!

Someone else confirmed what you'd already said, that's all. It probably made him realise that actually, you'd been right all along. But men being men, he wasn't going to admit that you were right and he was wrong!