Arguing

[arewenormalornot]

My husband and I have been together for very many years.

We do bicker but generally get on OK.

However, a few times a year we seem to have a huge argument and end up shouting at each other. It's generally when we are stressed with work etc.

I'm getting fed up with it but am I right in thinking it's not that unusual?

I doubt it is very unusual but I think it is unlikely anyone will post to say their relationship is similar.

The important thing is that you are getting fed up with it. I believe some people mellow as they get older and maybe that’s why you don’t want even an occasional tear up anymore. Your DH may feel the same way. Pick a calm moment to have a conversation about it and discuss alternative ways to vent your frustrations, complaints or whatever it is that prompt the rows. Agree what you will both do next time the situation occurs.

During the conversation you may well find that the bickering actually carries some weight and although minor, those gripes deserve a proper conversation to resolve them permanently. It’s probably a multitude of small things that lead to the big arguments