Crying I’m so upset

[Rita44]

I feel so upset and I know I’m probably being silly. When I met my ex he told me he had been very much in love with his ex. He told me he’d answered a phone call from her in the beginning of our relationship 😭
Anyway 10 months on I feel weird. He tried so many things sexually with her that was apparently so good it makes me sick. I feel like I want to end things but he says I shouldn’t ask questions if I don’t want him to be honest 😭😭

What do you gain by asking him about sex with his ex?

Nothing but I had a hunch he wasn’t being honest about certain sexual practices and I was right

How old are you OP? You are learning that sex with ex partners should stay in the past. Don’t ask about it.

Sounds to me like he's trying to make you feel insecure.

I'm not sure if he is an ex or not currently but either way I think ex is the better option here if you feel this bad. No one is worth getting that upset over.

I think he's right to a point about asking questions you don't want to know the answer too, but also you both have a bit of responsibility to either a) not ask questions regarding sexual pasts where it is that specific and b) having a bit of common decency to not tell your current partner how amazing the ex was. It just doesn't compute!

What does he gain by telling you this stuff? Don’t try to be in a relationship with someone who still thinks about sex with his ex.

Why are you asking these questions?

He’s your ex, isn’t he?

Move on. Honestly. Unless you’re worried about stds, there is nothing that can be gained by asking about your exs relationship or sexual history with his own ex.