Help me kick this stupid online affair

[GoldenKitty365]

I don't even need to say anymore do I? Rip me to pieces, I need to hear it :'(

Well it’s the age old advice isn’t it, what are you missing at home that you’re getting online? Fix that rather than cheating.

I don't even know. We're in the thick of parenting young children, I guess I I need an outlet. I've found it in the wrong place, and now it's become an addiction. I'm so fucking stupid.

I'm not going to rip you to pieces, you probably hate yourself enough as it is. Have you thought about counselling?

Thank you that's kind. I don't know where I'd even start. I am a counsellor too; the irony 😂

Block whoever you’re chatting too and start writing a journal

I'd start by blocking and going cold turkey, completely abstain from this.

Can you look at online counselling like better help?

Thank you..I am SO full of anger (at myself)
A year ago I would never have imagined myself here. I'd have been the first to judge.

How can you possibly be a counsellor and not know how to access counselling? Surely your clinical supervisor would be able to suggest someone? Or the person you saw during your training? In any event it’s a tricky situation and one you need to resolve, dressing it up as an addiction won’t help that process.

Personally I think on life affairs are so dangerous. The shit that you are sharing with practical strangers that can end up anywhere for ever.

The thought of my kids seeing or hearing some of that shit in actual black and white that could be potentially linked back to me would turn my blood into absolute ice. Or friends or family.

But you know all this shit, your lecturer other people on destructive behaviour that has the potential to blow your life to shit.

So what would tell yourself if you were in the other seat?

I think it’s difficult isn’t it because that person can be whoever you need them to be, they’re largely fantasy.

The only answer is to block and go cold turkey. Focus on what you should be focussing on - you, your family, your marriage.

I do know how to access it, but I don't feel like I can be helped. Thank you. I know you're right

Well it’s nonsense that you can’t be helped, you may feel embarrassed but it’s important that counsellors and therapists take themselves into therapy when life circumstances suggest the need for self reflection and development. I never understand counsellors who think counselling can’t help them, while relying on people coming for counselling to pay their bills. My guess is facing this, and the issues that made you look outside your marriage, feels scary and painful, which is exactly why you should seek counselling.