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My partner has been acting very distant and not interested in intimacy for quite a few months. I know it’s wrong but he has switched phones and left his old phone at home while he went out so I decided to look at it. I went into his browser history and there were a number of escorts sites on there and Google searches for escorts nearby. I don’t have proof he actually has used one but obviously I am devasted he has even looked for one, now I am in a bind as I looked at his phone without his knowledge but have now found something that I can’t forget. Has anyone got advice on how I can deal with this.

That's awful for you OP.

No doubt if you confront him he will come out with the usual " oh I was just curious so I googled them" or " I made an appointment but I never went through with it".

If he was searching for local escorts it's a pretty safe bet he has used them.

I don't see why you should feel guilty about looking at his phone: in my opinion your partner using escorts far out weighs looking at his phone without his permission on the scale of things.

Personally I would need to confront him.
But be prepared to be lied to.

I don't think I would be able to trust him again after making that discovery.

Do you have children together?

I'd say with 75% certainly he's used escorts.
Does he often "stay late at work" or go "to the gym" that sort of thing?

Can you get into his Gmail and then look at the map icon. He may have searched for directions.

That was a dead giveaway for me.

He doesn’t work late but he does go to the gym and sometimes it seems much longer then it should be

Yes we have a nearly two year old son

Sorry 😕

What are you going to do?

It’s not good is it. If he’s searching escort sites and googling escorts near by I’d say you need to bring this up with him. You can’t forget it and now also you will want to know if he keeps on doing it.
I don’t think you can let this slide, just explain yourself and why you did it, you felt a certain way and checked his phone. Your gut feeling was right clearly !

That’s awful!
I’ve posted something similar about my distant partner tonight so I really understand how it feels. We also have a toddler.
I don’t think I’m ready to go through his phone just yet, I think you’re really brave for doing that.
I don’t think I could ever trust him again and I definitely would have to confront him.

I'd not say anything immediately and first try and get another look at his phone for evidence, particularly his Google maps location history. Hopefully it will be turned on! Take a look back through your calendar and have a think about those times he spent longer at the gym than usual or days where his messages were suspicious, and then find those dates on his Google maps location history. Fingers crossed it's turned on and he was exactly where he said he was going to be, and he hasn't actually completely crossed the line by physically cheating...

What an idiot, either way. It never fails to disgust me when people can jeopardise their children's stability for a bit of sex. Pathetic.

I’ve decided I am going to leave my daughters phone in his car as she has life360 and see if it tracks him going somewhere other then the gym, I feel like I need hard evidence so he can’t just explain it away as just looking if that makes sense

I don’t understand this privacy thing in a marriage. You’re married you’ve hardly violated him