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Want unavailable men

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Sparkles224 · 27/01/2025 20:00

I always seem to want to be with men who are emotionally unavailable.
Numerous times over the years I've had a thing with a guy and they blow hot and cold but I seem to want to linger around to see if they will change their minds.
Currently there's a guy at work. He asked for my number and I gave it. We got talking and he hinted to me going to his but I said let's get to know each other. After that he stopped texting.
A couple months later he's gone out of his way to talk to me when we have bumped into each other. He's text me again but then randomly stops texting.
However I can't stop thinking about him, it's just all so confusing. I know if he wanted to date me he would.
I've had other dates where they were so keen but I didn't feel nothing for them.
What's wrong with me?

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PauliesWalnuts · 27/01/2025 20:08

There’s nothing wrong with you. He’s just after a no strings shag and keeps trying again when he thinks you’ve forgotten the last time.

JoyousPoet · 27/01/2025 20:12

Ah, I sympathise, OP. I’ve been there too. On a MN thread the other day, someone said they’d been following a therapist and dating coach called Kelsey Wonderlin on Insta who makes a lot of sense. I checked her out and I am now following her.

She tackles what to do when men are inconsistent and how to build your self-esteem so you bin ‘em if they are not giving you what you need. You deserve so
much better, OP. 💐

Sparkles224 · 27/01/2025 21:12

JoyousPoet · 27/01/2025 20:12

Ah, I sympathise, OP. I’ve been there too. On a MN thread the other day, someone said they’d been following a therapist and dating coach called Kelsey Wonderlin on Insta who makes a lot of sense. I checked her out and I am now following her.

She tackles what to do when men are inconsistent and how to build your self-esteem so you bin ‘em if they are not giving you what you need. You deserve so
much better, OP. 💐

Thanks i just looked her up and she seems to give some good advice.
Ugh it's just frustrating that I'm only interested in the guys who don't like me back.
Plus it doesn't help this guy I'm speaking to atm is the most gorgeous guy I've ever seen. He's model material 😫

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