He’s distant and making no effort to prepare for this baby

[Gemss99]

AIBU to be annoyed?
I’ve got 8 weeks left until my due date and I’m looking after our 3 year old. He works a lot but he’s completely buried his head in the sand when it comes to this baby. With our first, he made comments, showed an interest but this time he doesn’t even acknowledge I’m pregnant. I’m about to order the main baby things and he’s completely oblivious to it all. I feel like putting up the Moses basket in the living room to just remind him we’re having baby. He doesn’t show any happiness, interest or anything. I’ve chosen her name, he’s happy to go along with whatever with no input. He’s gone nowhere near me for months now, not even a cuddle. He’s distant and cold, treats me like a room mate. He’s stopped wanting to spend time as a family and makes any excuse to find other things to do, out the house. He says he’s stressed and wants to be ‘left alone’ a lot. I feel like he’s emotionally checked out?

That sounds awful for you OP.

Was this baby planned?

It sounds as though he is checking out of the marriage.

When he goes off to spend time out of the house do you know where he is going? Possibly there is another woman in the background.

This baby was a surprise, one night of not being careful and since then he’s gone nowhere near me. Before I fell pregnant, we were very intimate.
I agree it really feels he’s checked out. I think I just about know each time where he’s gone when he goes out, but you never know.
I definitely don’t feel he’s prioritising me and our toddler anymore

Do you have any family nearby to give you support OP?

I don’t have a lot of support unfortunately which is why I’ve posted here, I just need to figure out how I’ll navigate this situation because I know it’s not just my hormones making me feel this way. It just feels very lonely at times.

Have you sat down and had a conversation with him about how his behaviour is impacting you? I know stress is very debilitating but just telling you he is stressed in this situation when the new baby is imminent really isn't good enough. He needs to open up to you about how he intends to step up to support you during the final weeks of pregnancy , the birth and the change in your lives when the baby arrives. And if there is anything else going on in his life then you should emphasise he needs to be honest and open so you know where you stand .
Perhaps your midwife might be able to give you some support.