Friend's behaviour

[optimistic47]

Hi all,
I recently received the Freedom of The City of London. Everybody in the room mixed well, and looked like they had a great time. However, one friend has acted really odd since the event. At the end of the awards ceremony i said to him that we are going to the pub and gave him details. However he was the only one to not show up. I left messages since then. No response. Phoned him today and he said he had to organise a theatre trip this morning at the moment. I don't expect him to drop everything for me but I think it's a bit stand offish. I don't get it; he was looking forward to seeing me pick up the award and we had no argument.

Not sure there is anything in your post that suggests it might have offended him. All I can think is that either you made a speech and didn’t mention him (not saying you should have but some people get weird when not mentioned in speeches) or he made an effort to go to the event but then barely saw you and felt a bit sidelined?

Hi,
I didn't make a speech at all. It wasn't designed that way. There was a party of 20 people in there plus big furniture so the crowd was big. He's got a great personality and makes friends easily; he's met my husband before and had previously met someone else there. So still confused.

Do you think you can ask if he's OK? it does seem a bit odd. has he been 'off' before?

He is about 80 and a stroke survivor. He seemed a bit sheepish when i called this morning. I am upset as I think he is 'off'. Sorry to sound a bit unsympathetic, but it would have been nice of him to spend a minute with me on the phone and say thanks for the invite. He has a man who writes his emails for him. He said to call my friend a week ago. When I did my friend said 'can i help you?' first of all but then it got friendly on the phone. We are committee members for a group so I guess I will see him then.

Maybe he’s under the weather but made the effort to come out for the event but literally couldn’t face the drinks - 80 is quite an age after all. I would have said thank you for the invite when I received it, not after the event. I don’t understand your comments about emailing or this other person at all I’m sorry.

I can't fathom how someone is this freaked out by the quite normal behaviour of a friend - esp someone of 80 who you sit on a committee with.

Who knows what's going on with an 80 year old. Ill health , tiredness, maybe he did have to sort out a theatre trip? He came to your event, which is a nice thing to do; but just did a French exit as he probably had other stuff on.

Just wait til you see him next!

I don't think anyone here has the answers you are looking for sadly, and if you had a room full of other people then maybe focus on the good bits of the event?

So he came to the main event but not the pub afterwards and you're chasing him for why? Maybe he was tired/hates pubs/wanted to go home. When you next see him ask him if he's ok as you missed catching up with him at the pub.

Thanks for the replies. I've spoken to him now and it's all good. There was no argument. We will meet for a drink soon. I was just concerned as he was the only one I hadn't seen afterwards and I would have loved to have talked with him. With since caught up.

Did you just want to tell us you have been given the award, OP? 😉 Your question seems a bit meaningless really.

If that's the case!

Then congratulations OP.

That's wonderful x