Is this normal?!

[CherryCake88]

I’ve spoken about this a few times with girlfriends and it’s always caused a laugh and everybody says ‘yep! Totally normal’… but is it?! Surely it can’t be…

The week leading up to my period I HATE my boyfriend and feel low.
I start questioning if he is the man for me; I feel like he really irritates me and I don’t want be around him. I don’t have any sex drive.
I don’t act on it, I just suppress it. Maybe I’m a bit shorter than usual, but wouldn’t be unkind or anything like that.

Then all of a sudden - period comes - I’m back to normal.
I love him to pieces again. He’s the best man I could have chosen to be with & father my children. He’s my best friend and I can’t keep my hands off of him.

Is this a common thing?
is it normal? I started questioning if I have PMDD but I don’t have any other symptoms..

For context, I’m not on any hormone based contraception and have regular periods. I’m in my early 30s.

Incredibly interested to hear any thoughts

Girl, hormones are wild. I feel exactly the same towards my DH when I'm coming on, I notice every single annoying thing he does, (especially eating crisps) and feel total rage and it gives me the ick. As soon as I come on my love returns and everything is back to normal.
Me and my friend were literally only talking about this the other day, she is exactly the same. So I would pressume it's relatively normal. Xx

Hormonal mood swings are totally normal, and affect lots of women in different ways. If you have concerns, then speak to your GP.

I could have wrote this myself!! He even knows the week before I’m due on he says it’s like switch has been flipped.
its soooo hard to manage because at the time when I hate him it’s literally my truth. I genuinely feel very strongly that my life would be so much better with out him. Even when he breathes I’m like what the fuck man who breathes like that 🤣
but as soon as I come on and 2 weeks after that he’s literally the most amazing man in the world. Which I genuinely think he is anyway.

Your boyfriend has got off lightly!
I plan to get divorced almost every single month when have my period. He’s lucky I’m perimenopausal now so he’s getting 4 weeks when I don’t hate him instead of only 3.

I could have written this myself. It's awful. And I am currently in the ' I really dislike/verging on despise' you period. And I'm waiting for the love to flood back. It inevitably does but being peri, those periods are becoming longer. It can't be nice for him and I try to hard to rationalise but I can't help how I feel. I'm looking into some supplements to take as like others have said, it's clearly hormonal. When I'm happily I'm love it's the best thing ever and I just want that feeling all the time. I'm sure he wants that version of me too.

How crazy is it that we all feel the same! I know we all can have hormonal mood swings etc but I thought it was so odd for me to genuinely hate him one week of every month…

thanks so much for your replies, some of them made me laugh as well 🤣

Sympathies!
This is so common, that it has migrated to "how many ..........does it take to change a lightbulb?" territory -
Why does it take three women with PMT to change a lightbulb?
Because it just does, all right?

I had PMDD which sounds exactly like this. Everything would ramp up but as soon as my period started - calm.
Have a google of the symptoms OP and see if anything reasonates.