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HangryAquaCritic · 26/01/2025 20:12

I’ve been in a relationship for about 7 years now. At the time and during these 7 years I didn’t see it but I believe I do now. He got with me I was 19 years old, he’s 12 years older than me. I was young and very naive. Going forward a year after I met him some red flags started popping up: he wanted to change the way I dressed, my friends, my habits looking back pretty much everything. Guess what? He succeeded. I allowed him to pretty much change who I was as a person. Fast forward now to being together for about 7 years now. I feel like he’s manipulated me completely and I have allowed him to all these years, I want to let go but I always end up going back to him, he treats me like absolute crap sometimes and is constantly critical of everything I do. I do not want to go back to this man but I always feel my self going back. Has anyone gone through something similar? How did you overcome the urge of going back? I want to be free and be able to find and be myself the best version of myself.

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ChonkyRabbit · 26/01/2025 20:14

Please have a look into the Freedom Programme. I'm so sorry you've gone through this and well done for trying to get out.

TruthfullyIDK · 26/01/2025 20:14

Can you practically leave ? Do you have kids together? Is this just purely emotio ally stuck?

greengreyblue · 26/01/2025 20:16

It’s a comfortable pair of slippers op. 7 years from a young age of 19 where your adult personality is developing , is a long time. You can leave, you need to leave, so be your own best friend and put plans in place to leave. Seek the support of friends and family if you can

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