Advice on how I (pregnant) navigate this woman

[Firestonlee]

Really need some outside perspective and advice. I have a ‘friend’ who I thought we were on good terms but I feel she’s turned on me 🫤
I’ve realised she’s a know it all, over bearing and belittles people. I thought it was just me but speaking to a close friend we both feel the same.
She has been going through IVF and has no kids. Before I got pregnant she would constantly educate me about fertility and what I need to do etc to get pregnant. i never asked or wanted this advice.
i have a medical condition which means I’ve had several miscarriages. It’s a rare disorder but she instantly educated me about it and dismissed me that it was all fine now I found the cause of my miscarriages (even though I’m high risk).
anyway I’m pregnant I didn’t want to tell her but she guilt tripped me and said if I find out you’re pregnant and you haven’t told me I’ll never forgive you. Feeling vulnerable I stupidly told her.
luckily I’ve only had to see her once since then and she was absolutely vile to my face. My other friends witnessed it and were shocked.
We used to text most days and now radio silence (hallelujah) but she’s decided to take a dislike to me because I’m pregnant.
she had previously told a friend she hated her when she was pregnant!
Anyway I’m happy with the lack of communication but I’m having to see her next week because of a mutual friend. It’s already causing me anxiety
Please knock some sense into me and tell me how I navigate the meet up so I show her I’m not going to allow her to be rude to my face.
do I just change the subject if she starts to educate me about my pregnancy? Or if I’ve got the courage tell her to fuck off 😆
we have mutual friends and she’s one of these people who loves a fight. I’m quite passive and non confrontational so the thought of her biting back is causing me stress x

It’s cold, wet and miserable, I’d be persuaded to stay home with much less.

You need to focus on you and your pregnancy. It's now time to fuck off anyone who is rude, nasty and who doesn't wish you well. Your so called friend sounds controlling, insecure and jealous. Perhaps time for an audit of your friendship circle? Take a good look at the lot of them. Do not meet up with people who cause you stress or anxiety, health is priority now.

I think I'd be looking long and hard at why my friends are still friends with this nasty fucker.

Honestly, this woman is not your friend. She sounds quite dreadful. I understand if someone is experiencing infertility, that it's extremely hard when friends/family are expecting a baby. However, that is not an excuse to be vile to someone, simply because she's feeling jealous and resentful. I would meet with your other friend whose birthday you are celebrating, prior to the meet-up with the snarky one. I'd explain to your birthday friend that you won't be attending the meet-up, and the reason why. I would also tell her that you will be withdrawing contact with the snarky 'friend' too. You don't need a person like this in your life, it's too short to be putting up with nasty, bitchy women!!

to be fair it was all arranged months ago before said woman showed herself up.
My friend who invited her has a lot of personal shit going on so hasn’t go the bandwith to tell her to fuck off. However since her bad behaviour my friend has fully supported me and told me to tell her to fuck off and that she will support me. My friend has also backed off because she’s seen how she’s treated people and finds her very jealous.
Our friendship group is very close but said woman isn’t really part of it as we haven’t known her for so long. Since it’s all come to light the WhatsApp group has died a death and birthday friend hasn’t had much to do with her and we’ve all agreed to let the friendship fade.
my other friend was so glad I confided and told her I dont like her. She feels the same and wants nothing to do with the friendship as she’s not much of a friend.
So I think it’s just this birthday thing and after that I won’t have to worry about the possibility of seeing her again.

i feel better for getting it off my chest and validated that I’m not being mean or precious x

Yes, I’m going to speak to my friend
she already knows the situation and says I need to put myself first.
luckily my friends are wonderful and understanding and as this goes on they’re also seeing a really shitty side to this girl.
She dismissed my friends engagement and told my birthday friend she hated her because was pregnant which she was very hurt over.