Will I get over this?

[Stephanie89]

When I got with my husband I didn’t really ask him much about his previous sexual past, just how many girlfriends he’d had. Which was only 2 so that didn’t bother me at all.

Over the years I found out he’d slept with multiple women. Threesomes, three or four women in 1 evening. He doesn’t even know how many, he thinks maybe just over 100. I find this disgusting and definitely wouldn’t have got with him if I knew this beforehand.

He’s a really good husband and he does little to nothing wrong, but I dunno if I can get over this.

He tells me he can’t remember many of the women he slept with because he was mainly drunk each time. Every time we meet a new women ( hang out with a new couple ), I’m thinking, has he had sex with her? Also when women say they know my husband, my stomach drops and I wonder if they’d had sex.

Will I be able to get over this? Every time he talks to another women I'm wondering whether he fancies her, and if he’d want to have sex with her.
He is a very sexual person, more than I am.

Some may ask why I married him but this feeling has got worse over the years. It’s not like he’s even done anything for me to start feeling like this.

Has he ever cheated on you ? Made you do things or said things you were uncomfortable with ?
If not I think you’re being fair

So long as he's respectful and faithful now, I don't really see why his sexual past would be an issue, particularly when you say he's never done anything to make you feel concerned in your relationship. How old were you when you got married? Admittedly over 100 women seems a lot, but depending on what age he was sexually active from and how long he's been single for, it may not work out as all that much when you break it down.

I probably slept with around 10 people from becoming sexually active, during my college/uni years when I was single - that was 20 years ago. So if I'd remained single since then and kept up an average of 2 sexual partners per year, I'd be looking at a count of 400 by now 😂

I can understand why you find this hard to hear, OP. For one thing, It doesn’t seem like he has much respect for women, particularly because of the fact he slept with multiple in one night. Most importantly though, I’d be concerned about my sexual health and wonder if he’d given me anything without me knowing because there are obviously infections that can lie dormant for years.

However, if you know he is clean and you know he’s been faithful to you, I think I could get over it. Do bear in mind that men often greatly exaggerate their number of sexual partners because they erroneously believe that the more they have, the more desirable and attractive they are. For me, that couldn’t be further from the truth 🤣

It’s none of your business who he had relations with before you were a couple.