Secret about friend

[Tigertigers]

A male friend has just messaged to say a friend of ours has offered herself to him for prostitution £50. I have seen the screenshots and she has said not to tell me. He was with his mum at the time and she said I should know as I have known this woman a long time. He has only known her a few months. He feels sick as he did like her and said it is degrading.

I am shocked as she lives at home with her dad and he pays all the bills so she has no bills to pay. It is not my business what she does but I don’t feel comfortable with someone who isn’t transparent. She would just say it is not my business if I confronted her.

About 18 months ago she used to go to ‘modelling shoots’ at the time her ex who she was dating said he has suspicions she was sleeping with these ‘photographers’ for money but couldn’t prove it.

What do I do knowing this information?

It really isn't your business.

What do you want to do with the information?

There's several.options.

You all sound about 15. This can’t be real

Personally I'd drop her as a friend. She sounds sleazy

You do nothing with the information, it's not yours to know.

If you want to withdraw from the friendship that's up to you but if not then you just be her friend and support her if she needs

Hmmm difficult one
You could just say you know and it makes no difference to you
Having been involved with escort work and managing a massage parlour in my later years you do get a lot of good people in the industry doing it for all sorts of reasons and they appreciate people who don’t judge them x

You do nothing with the information apart from probably be concerned that your friend is in position where she might feel she has no choice but to do this for money. How have you made this all about yourself?

£50! Bloody hell, she'd get that for a couple of hours cleaning!

The only random thought is she has a cooker fantasy.

I'm afraid I wouldn't want her as a friend. I think the guy has done the right thing telling you.

I don't understand how this affects your friendship with her?

My best mate had an affair with a married man, I'm still her friend coz altho that's not something I would involve myself in, that's her decision and her body.

Maybe it says more about morals but sometimes life isn't as cut and dry for everyone and people do worse on a Saturday night in the local, or on Only Fans.

Why would you confront her?
Why did your male friend involve you?

It's none of your business. Do nothing. She doesn't have to be "transparent".

Tell him to delete the screenshots and get on with your lives.

If you no longer want to be her friend, then that's up to you.

Her sister already had some well-being concerns about her and her ex who was a domestic abuser. Her sister phoned me at the end of last year telling me everything and all her concerns. The ex was arrested when they were together but she still speaks to him.

I don’t know why the sister thinks I can sort out a grown woman. Social services and Women’s Aid have paid specialists who have these expertise to properly help her.

Don’t do anything you don’t know what reasons she may have for doing it, mind your own business.

Just don't get involved. It's none of your business.

Frankly given everything you have said about abuse and being in touch with the ex…I would just simply ask if she’s okay and take it from there. You never know what kind of control this ex has on her and whether he is driving this prostitution.

If you’re close enough to know her family then I would also make them aware tbh, for the sake of making sure she is okay and has allies outside of her abusive ex. ultimately that also opens the door for you to back away and distance yourself as you know her family are looking out for her, even if the situation makes you uncomfortable

So you already know she’s extremely vulnerable and yet your first instinct is to be pissed that she’s not being transparent.
You don’t have to be friends with anyone you don’t want to, you don’t have to support anyone you don’t want to but the angle you’re coming at this from is so compassionless it’s shocking.
If your post had of read ‘I’m concerned about a friend of mine, she has a history of being in an abusive relationship, her family are already worried about her and now I’ve found out she is offering sexual favours to a mutual friend for money. Should I tell her family in confidence so that they can try and support her as I really don’t feel in a position to do so’ you might come across as more human.

If she has kids I’d speak to social services

I mean I wouldn't stay friends with a prostitute because I am very strongly against it, but you do what you want.

Thanks for the replies. I am going to stay out of it and keep my distance as it is not my business. If I told her sister somehow this would all get turned round on me and that I’m the bad one for speaking out. She is 45 and vulnerable, she has no children. I have tried so much over the years when she has asked for advice but she always ignores it, so why ask for my advice then. I even spent 3 hours with her and I made a list of support agencies as she wanted them and she never made contact with them.

I noticed she was driving round with no road tax and MOT so me and her guy friend made her aware. I told her sister too. She got it sorted after we told her it was dangerous and illegal. She has car insurance as well checked. She won’t take responsibility for anything and sees it as a man should do everything for her. Her dad always sorted her car renewals out but he is getting dementia now so he can’t.

She used to do glamour modelling behind her ex’s back and he didn’t mind the modelling but he said that was topless etc was a step too far and because he had concerns she cheated on him. It is true as he told me and she did confirm it was true and she cheated because she wasn’t happy.

I have enough problems with family and can’t take another persons problems on too otherwise I will end up ill. I can only do so much.