Do you ever really get over the father of your child? From experience..?
Me and my child’s dad split up just over 2 years ago now. He’s happily moved on quite quickly, and I’m single, have dated a bit on and off but I really don’t see myself finding someone anytime soon. I can’t imagine feeling the way I felt for him with someone else ever again.
I’m genuinely happy that he’s happy, and I’m not saying I want him back (sometimes I do wonder about it) but sometimes if I reflect on old memories, or see photos my biggest feeling is ‘wow, what a shame.. we really were good together, we just didn’t know how to navigate difficult times whilst we were young’ rather than feeling sad, and longing for him back I just feel a bit low about it and wonder what if I guess?
We still have a good relationship (co parenting relationship) and he’s really an amazing dad. I just fear I will never be able to open up fully to anyone else as I know I will always care about him so so much.. I completely respect he’s engaged now. Me and his new partner get on fine.
Anyone else feel this way, but then managed to meet someone again?
Sometimes when I’ve dated, it starts of well then I very quickly get put off.. it’s like I’ve become avoidant and don’t know how to change that.. and I’m starting to think whether I’m chasing that feeling rather than openly starting something new? Honestly at this point I think I need therapy ðŸ«