Another point of view??

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Me and hubby have been together 5 years going to 6.Steuggling a bit for the last 3 years.He lost his dad and the year after I lost my mum.Life been shit and we been on verge of divorce a couple of times.We always stick together but I’m worried we stick together out of desperation.I don’t really have anyone else and his family is not too supportive.This is our latest conversation and I just wanted to hear another point of view?

P.S:What he said before the message is that we haven’t been happy for years but we are as happy as we can be!

It’s hard to comment from this OP?

why are you having conversations by with him by text?

are you unhappy in general or is it your marriage that is making you unhappy?

Can you clarify what you mean in the PS? Does he think you’re as happy as you can be or are you saying that?

You both agree you’ve been unhappy for more than half of your marriage and even the message exchange you share shows you’re not communicating in a way that’s clear to each other. It’s always sad when things come to an end but it’s best to be honest and accept it when it’s time if that’s what one or both of feels.

Unfortunately I think we are both unhappy in general and the marriage is just another thing that we sometimes sweep under the rug so it’s quiet and we deal with the other problems.

He said that in the conversation we had not on text.The reason I send it by message is because I am Eastern European and even tho my English is amazing sometimes I can probably express it but I can write it much better.The problem is when I start to say how I feel he would usually say:Oh you make it out you have it so bad or I’m not having this conversation again or this is just so boring or I’d rather get hit by a train than to talk about the relationship again!

so we kinda sit say sorry and love you and we prod along …

are you expecting him to make you happy/fix your life or is it a bad relationship?

you say you love each other which is a good sign, so if there is no abuse etc what is the actual issue?

I feel like I’m feeling lonely while in the marriage?Maybe I’m being silly or selfish as I said I just wanted to see what other people think from a side point of view.

You say that he sometimes strokes your head or gives you a little cuddle which makes you feel good.
Perhaps if you started being more affectionate with him, with little cuddles and touches, it would re-ignite your affection for each other.
Might be worth a try, before you both give up on the relationship.