This is off the bat of my last post - I’ll summarise. Been with new partner for 3 months (but casually dated for 3 months before that), we have started seeing each other quite a lot quite quickly (sometimes for half the week) and I have a lot going on in my own life, so I feel like I need to cut the contact back a little bit in order to have some spare time to just re-charge and chill out by myself.
I’ve had quite a hard few MH days (I have PMDD which affects me mentally quite bad) and was meant to be seeing partner this weekend, however as I had already seen them for 3 days earlier on in the week, I said that I wanted to give today a miss and have some time to myself sort of thing. Partner was disappointed but said okay, they will respect what I want to do but then after a while started saying that they felt really uncomfortable at home and needed to get out (their neighbours are quite loud and aggressive at times and they find this triggering). I knew it was a bit of a hint, especially when they started saying about driving near the beaches/forests near my house (we live about 40-45 minutes apart from each other). I didn’t give into the hints and just said okay, have a great drive and I’ll speak to you when you’re home.
A couple of hours later, they show up at my front door. They got a couple of my favourite snacks, said they wanted to see if I was okay and that they wasn’t staying. Now I’ve misjudged people in the past so this is why I’m sort of on the fence about it. On one hand; it’s a really thoughtful thing to do and I know they really care about me and make me feel really loved in loads of different ways. On the other hand; they started asking straight away if it was about them and I think they had anxiety that I was maybe going to end things with them because I’ve been in a bad place the last couple of days? And I feel that they knew I wouldn’t turn them straight away and would let them come in for a while to sit down after driving around etc because that’s the kind of person I am, so I feel in some ways that they didn’t actually respect what I wanted to do today and just made any excuse to get over here today and is this a sign for things to come?
Am I overthinking this and they just genuinely wanted to make sure I was okay and drop me off some snacks or was there an ulterior motive? It also has run through my mind that they don’t like being at home, no-one else was available today so have they just forced their way over to avoid being at home. I really don’t know what to think about this and it’s driving me mad?