I'm seeking some advice about my friendships. At 40, I'm not sure I've made a good circle of friends for myself unfortunately. It's not like I don't put an effort. I tend to bend over backwards to make plans work. I rarelly decline an invite and am always up for some fun. I have a group of friends that I started hanging out with for the past 2 years and I'm starting to feel like just a filler. Whenever they make plans, I'm invited kinda last minute sometimes not always, or because they need people at an event for support, but anytime I reach out just for a hangout or coffee, it's crickets. We have a messaging group together and I've kinda had a eerie week, so when I felt the need to hangout with some friends to help shake it off, i messaged everyone to see if they wanted to grab coffee over the weekend. I never even heard back from anyone. Like atleast give me the respect to respond right? I'm a big girl i can take a "no I'm busy", but to just leave me hanging on read? This is not the first time its happened either. Whenever i try and make plans noone responds. What would you do? Am I trying too hard? Also one of the moms is having a bday party for her kid this weekend, so I'm confused if I should even drop my kids off as I don't feel like I've gotten the respect I deserve. Feeling bummed and lonely. Am I overthinking it? Is this what friendships are like these days?