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What to make of this?(spell???)

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fredintothewild · 25/01/2025 00:04

Hi everyone so recently married to my dw

One of the guests (single male) is a good friend of mine and my wife has been added on social media from him which is fine.

So we are open about phones and let each-other go on and nothing apparent has happened

Until a couple of weeks her bag was open and I found a very small glass bottle with a note in with some fragrant liquid in so me being me I opened it and got the note out which was covered in a perfume smell and the small note was in red writing of the single male wrote 3 times and then another direction my wife's name with red circle around it so put it back and left it (now it's gone)

And now a week ago went of wife phone and saw
On deleted notes

Will * reach out
Has * spoken about how he feels to anyone?
Will * come to birthday party

I'm so confused as when I speak about the single guy she doesn't react and when I said he wants me to go out for a night out and help be his wingman I get no reaction

I'm not confrontational at all and don't know what the best way to go into this

As my wife doesn't know that I have seen the glass bottle or the deleted note

Any help or input would be amazing

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StormingNorman · 25/01/2025 10:03

That it. Literally trying to magic it into existence. It’s good that your friend isn’t interested.

I think that in long term relationships, it could be quite normal to get a little passing crush on other people. I’m not sure how I’d feel about trying to act on it though.

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fredintothewild · 25/01/2025 10:05

StormingNorman · 25/01/2025 09:57

You could give her your own bottle with your names and some of your aftershave - then sit back and watch her reaction.

I Strangely like the thought of that as it would give her something to think about. She would probably know then that I have seen her bottle and probably ask me how do I know what to do.

I only know from internet searching after finding

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gamerchick · 25/01/2025 10:08

Love spells don't work even if you do believe in that stuff. You can't bend someone's will.

The issue is she's actively hankering after another man OP. You need to have a proper chat with her and if you don't get a straight answer, have the chat about what splitting up looks like.

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fredintothewild · 25/01/2025 10:12

StormingNorman · 25/01/2025 10:03

That it. Literally trying to magic it into existence. It’s good that your friend isn’t interested.

I think that in long term relationships, it could be quite normal to get a little passing crush on other people. I’m not sure how I’d feel about trying to act on it though.

Well I think when I meet him I will ask him if my dw is messaging him and I would like to think he will give me a straight answer if I get him a couple of drinks in him

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Gcsunnyside23 · 25/01/2025 10:12

fredintothewild · 25/01/2025 09:49

I know I agree it's just the fact I found it which I can imagine she will get annoyed at me with as I've been snooping

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Tell her you knocked her bag over and found it, wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt even though it was all super weird but you can't get it out of your head so have resolved to ask her. Don't mention looking in her phone. You will get alot by her reaction and if she tries to gaslight about it then then say it's ok you'll just ask the other guy

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fredintothewild · 25/01/2025 10:14

gamerchick · 25/01/2025 10:08

Love spells don't work even if you do believe in that stuff. You can't bend someone's will.

The issue is she's actively hankering after another man OP. You need to have a proper chat with her and if you don't get a straight answer, have the chat about what splitting up looks like.

I can only imagine if it comes to it that it will be very messy and also having a young one that it wont be best for them and to try and work out what it is that I'm missing

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 25/01/2025 10:20

Garlicnorth · 25/01/2025 06:18

I used to live in a country where the 'alternative religion' is very strong. I had a fair few spells and curses cast my way, amongst other stuff. I'm certain that magic can work, but it works the same way as homeopathy and reiki - because the person on the receiving end believes it. No curses ever harmed me.

The point of this intro was to emphasise that I'm not suggesting a breakup spell because I think there's anything to it - but, if she's a believer, she might feel her bond with your 'friend' is hexed. You would need to make sure she accidentally sees you casting it, or finds the circle of candles and your lavender-scented knife afterwards.

I also need to say this is a horrid mystery to find soon after your wedding, you must feel bewildered. And it's far better to speak to her than to play magical mind games.

Still, if you feel like going that way, here's a breakup spell (other varieties are available, this one doesn't need complicated accessories!)

6 STEPS TO CAST A BLACK MAGIC SPELL TO BREAKUP A RELATIONSHIP
Breaking up is never easy, but with the help of black magic it can be a lot easier. Here are the steps you need to take to cast a black magic spell to break up a relationship.
STEP 1
Gather your supplies. In order to cast this spell, you will need some black candles, an Athame or knife, and some lavender oil.
STEP 2
Cast a circle. This is an important step in any spellcasting ritual, and it is especially important when casting a black magic spell. Make sure you are in a place where you will not be disturbed, and light the candles around the edge of the circle.
STEP 3
Anoint your Athame with the lavender oil. This will help empower your spell and increase its effects.
STEP 4
Visualize the relationship breaking up. It is important to focus on what you want to happen as you cast this spell. Picture the two people in the relationship splitting up and moving on with their lives separately.
STEP 5
Say the following incantation: "By the power of black magic, I break up this relationship and send them on their separate ways."
Breathe in deeply and repeat three times.
STEP 6
Release the circle and allow the candles to burn out. Once you have finished casting your spell, it is important to let it run its course. Do not interfere or try to force things along; simply allow the magic to work its own will.

As long as she doesn't see him lighting candles & waving a knife around chanting about breaking up an affair, I suppose. But your entire point is that she needs to see him doing it. Which is a surefire route to a 999 call and armed response.

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fredintothewild · 25/01/2025 10:21

@Gcsunnyside23

I think that might be the easiest way into getting a conversation started about it that I saw it out and put it online and says something about a love spell

What did it say inside and if she says something different then I know it's gaslighting

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NoCarbsForMe · 25/01/2025 10:46

Just ask her!

Gcsunnyside23 · 25/01/2025 11:42

fredintothewild · 25/01/2025 10:21

@Gcsunnyside23

I think that might be the easiest way into getting a conversation started about it that I saw it out and put it online and says something about a love spell

What did it say inside and if she says something different then I know it's gaslighting

Yeah I think it's the easiest way. If she tries to gaslight you don't engage, just say to let you know when she wants to discuss it like adults and walk away. It's a pity you didn't take a few pics

Uricon2 · 25/01/2025 11:43

All this spell nonsense aside, it's about the intent. One or both of your DW and your "friend" has a thing about the other, whether she made it or he did. That's what you need to get to the bottom of and I would suggest telling her that you know about the bottle and ask what's going on. If you get nowhere, talk to him, if it was in his writing.

The fact she doesn't react when he's mentioned means nothing.

andfinallyhereweare · 25/01/2025 23:58

fredintothewild · 25/01/2025 09:52

Kind of like law of attraction?

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@fredintothewild yep law of attraction/assumption. Doesn’t really matter what she’s doing it’s the intent behind it, she wants someone outside your relationship to reach out to her, to see him etc… that’s the issue here. She’s looking outside of your relationship that’s the real problem not the method in which she does it. Good luck. Hopefully it’s just a case of unmet needs where a conversation and effort on both your parts can stop her wanting someone else.

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