Slagshag

[Ruby0707]

I was helping my partner use an app for something (he's not that tech savvy) and he couldn't remember the password. As he was scrolling through his saved passwords on this phone I think I saw a website called slagshag (or possibly the other way round, I can't remember).

That must mean he has had account with something nefarious at some point doesn't it?

Maybe it was before we got together. Maybe he didn't use it. Maybe he logged on as a joke or something.

I don't know. It's bad isn't it? What would you think?

He's very open with me, gives me access to his phone and emails to help him with stuff. No reason to think bad of him but I can't stop thinking about what I saw.

could you not go back and look again and log in and see if there's anything that's recent?

Any chance he's in to music? I searched the site on incognito mode and a UK music artist with that name came up.

It’s a band.

Have you googled the site?
I've got my dc with me so I can't really check it for you. I'd have to ask him once you've googled.

I did find a website called shagaslag.com or something.

He is into music yes but I've not heard him mention them.

There is a website which is basically a hook up site. Possibly paid for sex, I can't bear to look again.

I looked and the websites found two dating/hookup sounding websites but neither are active, i.e. blank, nothing on them at all. One was a sub site through another hook up site the sub site and the website do not work.

Probably something from a while ago if it was those or the band. There is also a youtube channel of a similar name, so could even be a friend sending a vid.

Shagslags[dot]uk and shagslags[dot]com. They both look lovely.

Nonetheless, OP, I sign up to all sorts of batshit websites out of curiosity! If there are no other background reasons you think your DP might be misbehaving, I'd ignore it. Or ask him.

Oh gosh you're replies have been so reassuring. Thank you for taking the time.

If he had been on the band’s website, which I can’t find on google, he wouldn’t need a website to access it.
I can’t find a website, just their social media pages.
How often does he clear his search history OP?

I don't know if he would know how to clear his history.

I don't want to snoop, it feels like a betrayal but I guess I will have to if I want more info.

Even if it was before me though, makes me feel really weird about him.

You need to decide if this is something that you can forget about or if it will be on your mind a lot.

You could just ask him?

Just ask him. He might not tell you the truth, but his reaction to being asked may be illuminating.

'Eric, you know when i was helping you with that App and you were looking at your saved passwords? I noticed there was a website with a funny name! Slagshag! What on earth is that?'

Why on earth didn’t you just say
“ what’s that ?” And discuss it ???

It happened quite quickly as he was whizzing through. It took a while to register and then a while longer for me to realise it was a problem.

I mean the site in question sounds horrible and sleazy whatever it is. However, I was pretty shocked a few weeks back when I went into my password manager, there were passwords saved for sites and accounts I hadnt used in years and some I couldn't remember even being signed up with. Not saying it's all innocent but I think if you keep the same email etc it can show things from donkeys years back. I'd ask him About it, just say when he was scrolling down u saw it - nothing wrong with that you haven't been snooping 🤷

One of my passwords contains the name of a brand of cigarette but I don't actually smoke so who knows. (Obviously this example has been changed from the real thing but you get the drift).

@Ruby0707 how are you hen? X

I found out about a truly despicable website on here once, mumsnetters were discussing it so I had a look and the nosy fucker I am, (uk punting I think it was called, where grotesque men who use sex workers review them) but I'd never use a sex worker myself, it was just curiosity.
I hope that's all it is, normally I'm suspicious as hell of all men but he gave you his phone, if he was accessing dodgy stuff, he'd not be so stupid.

I'm ok, thank you for checking in.

I still haven't decided if I want to do anything about it. I'm scared of the response if I ask him as I will immediately know if he is lying.

I'm sure there must be an innocent explanation for it though as you said, otherwise he wouldnt be so open with his phone, surely?

'I'm sure there must be an innocent explanation for it though as you said, otherwise he wouldnt be so open with his phone, surely?'

Or he's arrogant and thinks he can easily flip it so that you're the baddie foe snooping and /or he thinks you wouldn't want to rock the boat.

@Ruby0707 I've just spoken to my partner who like myself looks up some awful stuff online (he's a history buff and looks up some weird shit, I am interested in people who commit crime) and I asked him would he have anything if I noticed that would upset me, he said no but if I ever did see something I'm to ask him because he'd hate knowing his curiosity about medieval battle or torture etc had upset me. He also said (when I explained it could be a band website) that because of the unique named some bands have (remember pussy riot?) he'd just ask him about that music genre, that will be quite telling.
Maybe if he asks you to do the password thing again just ask then? But I'd rather bring it up and gauge a reaction. I hope its nothing x