I have a few good friends. We don’t see each other much because we are busy.
Though I have had toxic people in my life and I don’t know why. One was a volunteering placements, the charity placed me with them which I did for years then the service user gave me a load of abuse because myself and another person reported animal abuse. I cut ties immediately.
Then a woman at a Meetup group years ago somehow latched onto me. I only heard off her when things went bad for her. In December she was being negative and obsessing over the news which I think was in her head because I researched her fears and nothing about her concerns had been reported. She was angry I was not bothered about the news. I told her to see a GP or counsellor because this was everyday she was contacting me and then she got mad a week later. She said she will watch what she tells me in future and was slagging off people who go to a counsellor saying they are weak. I said they an are not weak and some have had a traumatic time and need to confide in someone and I said I’m sure you will find someone else to confide in. Luckily I haven’t heard off this vile woman since.
Then 20 years ago I met a woman through my ex who was dating his best friend at the time. We meet up twice a year and she only contacts me when things are bad and expects me to pay when we go out. Or she wants someone to take her to a modelling photo shoot - I have refused as she is the type who won’t pay petrol money. I did go to one with her locally the once but it was a blatant scam. She also asks if I can go with her to social groups to meet people and when I say I can’t I have plans she reads and does t bother replying. Recently she has been reading my message then replies days later, yet I introduced her to a friend and she has been replying to him more quickly. She likes the attention and leads him on. Just uses people to do things for her. I am done with her.
Where can you meet genuine and decent people? How is it best to get rid of leeches like this? Thank you.