Overwhelmed

[Fairybread77]

Can I please ask... Is it fair to care for my 9,7 and once a week 19 year old disabled son for the entire 91/2 week school holidays with no help or "time off"?

I'm afraid that's the burden single mums have to bear.

Is their father not in the picture?

I'm not a single mum ... That's why I asked

He has seperated from me twice once was 6 months the next 10 months he came back just last September but works ALL the time

Have you approached Social Services for respite , Carers assessment?

Fair? Maybe not, but life isn’t always fair, sadly. Yes the father should be helping too but it sounds like he works a lot? You chose three children, and if he is working then it falls to you. There may be support out there, speak to local charities, social services, etc. Do you have friends and family IRL who can rally round?

Are you employed?

@Pumpkinpie1 it reads like the 19yr old only visits once a week, I thought.

Are there any summer/holiday clubs that your younger children can be enrolled in??

@Fairybread77 the three kids all his??

Why are women constantly making excuses for shit dads?

Unless there’s a real reason like their dad is dead or abusive so isn’t in the picture why is it just something that women have to put up with?

it takes a man and a woman to make a baby. That is two parents who have the responsibility of raising and caring for the children.

Whether you’re with the father or separated, tell him to book a week or two off work and he can have his children. Try and book some holiday camps if possible too.

That sounds tough OP. I'm sorry your husband has renaged on the plans you made.

Have you contacted Scope or Gingerbread to see what help is available? Any holiday clubs? Childcare? Relatives?

There's not enough information to know if the man is 'shit'. OP hasn't said if she's employed.