Hi all, I split with my ex 2 years ago. We have 2 DD 7 and 3. We coparent well and I still live in the family home until the mortgage comes up for renewal this summer and my ex rents nearby in a flat big enough for the kids to have proper space.
We split the costs for both accommodations and do prob 60:40 childcare, with me doing a bit more cos I think that's what the children prefer.
When the mortgage is up we will have to sell. Which makes me sad in itself. But I'm looking at current mortgage rates and rents and I can't bear how poor I will be once the mortgage is up.
I work really hard in a "good job" with long hours but it goes nowhere as a single parent in the south east with what will be more than 4% interest rates. My mortgage on a smaller crappier house locally will be more than £2k a month. I've been trying to get a new better paying job but no luck so far. My ex earns an average amount.
I might need to move away again (we already moved to a new cheaper town while me and their dad were still together) but I really don't want to given how much upheaval they've already had in their short lives and I'll be somewhere again with no support no family and starting all over again, again. And I want to try and stay as close as i can to family (we are currently 60 miles away from them in London).
It all just feels exceptionally difficult. Thanks for reading so long and sorry for the whinge.