How much football is too much football?

[Cazeesh]

My partner is absolutely obsessed with the game - it doesn’t matter which team, which cup, which country, there’s always a game on. Sometimes I feel like we plan our lives around when his team is playing or when the ‘good games’ are on.

Admittedly, football in general has become more bearable and dare I say sometimes fun to watch. But how much football is too much football? I love that he’s passionate about it - he’s always said his three loves in life are me, family and Arsenal,.. I just question the order sometimes.

Does anyone else have an OH who’s sports-obsessed?

Mines obsessed with doing sports but not spending hours watching other people do them.

I find it quite attractive he has a range of different hobbies.

I can't stand even having football on the TV tbh so I'm glad that you can at least enjoy it sometimes. I wouldn't stop him watching it though id just go watch a period drama in the other room but luckily he would rather ditch the game and do something together.

An interesting football match (interesting to me, may be not to others) is like reading a really absorbing book. For 90 minutes I can forget the awful things happening in the world and just revel in the chess game that a good football match can be. With added athleticism.

How much is too much? No idea, but I'll let you know if I ever reach it.

However, I would never miss, for example, a family get together or similar in order to watch a game. That would constitute too much for me.

Too much. I would never have made it past the first date with an obsessive football fan, I'm afraid.

I'm the obsessive football fan, though only my team to be fair. Surely it's nothing new? If not then he isn't going to change now.

If you're asking how much is too much, it sounds like it might be too much.

I personally would not be happy planning my life around my DP's football/telly schedule and I would be unhappy if telly was the deciding factor in our lives.

Also, I would not want always to be somewhere else doing/watching something else b/c my DP was 'busy' watching telly - that's no partnership/relationship

Thankfully he’s never had to miss any sort of pre-planned social/family thing - but I find myself looking ahead to see when Arsenal’s playing just so I can plan around it.

I mean, it’s been 10 years so I’m used to it by now - this is more of a ‘just letting out a bit of frustration’ post rather than a ‘I can’t stand my partner’ post 😅

No, you’re right. It’s nothing new - been 10 years now and I knew what I was getting myself into! Posting this more out of a tiny bit of frustration while he’s currently watching the Champions League 🤦🏼‍♀️

Fair point. I suppose I just kind of let it slide over the years - I’m quite easy going and I keep myself busy while the football’s on anyway, but I’m maybe starting to think I might need to put my foot down at least just a little bit.

The husband and son are both completely obsessed. I mean utterly obsessed every single minute of the day is spent talking about football playing football and watching football.
I ask ds what he did at school and every day all he will Tel me is he played football at play time 🤣

So I get you op

Football is on in our house practically every night. Either Dh's team, any other premier league side, champions league, World Cup, anything.

I'm fine with that. Doesn't bother me.

In our house televised matches are divided into two categories.
Arsenal = compulsory.
Most everything else = optional.
(Major tournaments = game by game basis.)

I'm usually fine with this.

My DH is a season ticket holder and goes to all the games, home and away. It's my "me time" but we don't have DC so I can be selfish too. Last year he even went to all the European games (home and away) as his team qualified for the first time. I went with him on a couple of lovely breaks to Rome and Athens.

In 25 years he hasn't missed an event for sport yet although I wouldn't fancy my chances against football if his team were in a cup final (hasn't happened yet!).

In football's defence, I also had a season ticket when we met. Any children would have supported his team. I'm not silly 😉

Oh and we don't have Sky or any other football channels.

I'm a male football fan and season ticket holder.

I think that some people really let it dominate their lives to a silly extent. I try to get the balance right, I don't know if I have and I keep thinking about this.

I've made it clear to my DW that football comes down the pecking order of our lives. If there was some nice thing (especially any family thing) she wanted us to do that conflicted with a match I've got a ticket for, then I'd miss the game.

I take my son and daughter to games with me, and it seems like a fun way for us to spend time together.

Where I have a concern for myself is watching it on TV. This seems to me like such a waste of valuable leisure time, when I could be doing more productive or enjoyable things. So I limit how often this happens as much as possible.

I think the saying "everything in moderation" is appropriate for football. And if you feel your partner is obsessed, then it probably is too much. If my DW said she felt I was prioritising football too highly, I'd try and reel it in, especially if she said anyone in my family was losing out because of it.

I think there should be more football - one more to be precise. Then each team could have their own football instead of mucking about try to share one, that way the game come be done and dusted in less than half the time and we could all get on and do something more interesting.

Bloke here. In my (possibly minority) opinion watching any football at all is way too much. 🙄
Stupid game, played by overpaid morons. Am I making my position clear? 😀
Life’s an ephemeral thing: don’t waste yours watching other people live theirs.

Sometimes I get annoyed with my DP always wanting to watch football. He is sport obsessed and does some sports for a few hours a week too (that's fine) but I find football SO boring so I avoid watching it and will do something else. At the same time he wouldn't avoid making a plan with me because of it, he only watches it if we are at home and we don't have any plans.

Mine would avoid making plans when his team are playing. He goes to the home games and watches rhe rest on TV. Never misses one though.

he will watch random other games on tv too but says I just spent all night watching shit anyway so why wouldn’t he! He has got a point.

I'm actually very lucky as my OH loves football (she's an Everton fan) so doesn't love it as much lately.
She also loves cricket, darts, boxing and I've got her into baseball. I'd say 80% of what we watch is sport

We're all football obsessed in our house. No such thing as "too much" in my opinion!😂

As long as he's not a gambler then it's cool to be madly passionate about football. Lots of people are. My dad was. Took my mum to so many games back when it was unusual for women to attend.
I think it's quite a good tactic to try and gain at least a mild interest in the game, in order to make his obsession more bearable!
Assuming there is a limit and he doesn't speak about it and watch it literally constantly. At the expense of decent conversation or romance!

Any football is too much football. It’s one of my ‘winnowing out before first date’ questions, and an automatic veto.

This is me and DP to a tee 😂

one team is the limit here
plus international England games

and the World Cup final because we all wanted Messi to win the cup just once

Has he always been like that? Or has there been a change?