Deciding factor in going low/ no contact with family

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Hi there,
Im really struggling in my relationship with my younger sister and am wrestling with the idea of going low/ no contact with her for the sake of my own sanity! I was just wondering how anybody on here went about it? And what was your deciding factor to? Also I essentially want to keep the peace with my parents as I don’t want to upset them with this. If it weren’t for them I think I would have done this years ago. Has anyone been able to do this? Thanks in advance for any replies.

You’re always allowed to change or even end a relationship that isn’t healthy. How would your family react to knowing you were pulling away?

To be honest I think my sister would put on a performance like she cared but wouldn’t really. I’m more concerned about upsetting my parents than anything else as my mum especially is very sensitive to how my sister is treated and I don’t want to create any tension between us.

Depends how far you go. Not turning up to family events because she’s there? Never seeing DM when she’s there? Stopping birthday and Christmas cards and presents?

What does DM expect of you as siblings? Why is your relationship with your dSis important to her? Can she see your point of view? How will it affect your relationship with your DM? I would take all of this into account.

You don’t have to live closely with anyone but stepping back a bit might be the way to go but it depends on what the issue is. Would your DM notice if you withdrew slowly to a lower level of contact? How much is contact right now with DSis?