Uninhibited sex

[QuietButThoughtful]

I’m in my late forties. My husband works away from home, too much really. I went out with friends one night, too much to drink and ended up in bed with someone. Several hours of sex, things I’ve never done before and very pleasurable. Wish it hadn’t happened as it’s opened up a real urge in me to do more but can’t open up to my husband about it. It could wreck my life but can’t put the genie back in the bottle. Maybe it’ll subside but I don’t know

So what's the point of your thread?
You obviously have no guilt as regards what happened.
Why not be honest with your H and tell him what happened? Surely you owe him that?
Then if he decides your marriage is over you can pursue your uninhibited sex with whoever you like without deceiving your supposed life partner.

Your issue here is that you were unfaithful to your husband.

Life's too short for terrible sex.

Obviously the answer is to have a string of ever more risky affairs and then write a tell-all bestseller with a title like My Year Uninhibited. The book tour should keep you busy when your marriage implodes.

What a conundrum.

You can open up to your husband about wanting more uninhibited sex

Jobs a goodun

HTH

This board is filled with women (and a few men) who have been cheated on so you won't get the response you want here.

In reality though, you have discovered that your husband is a poor lover, is not meeting your physical needs and that you are unsatisfied sexually. This is a perfectly valid reason to a end a relationship, and you should, considering you have already cheated. It's a wake up call to the fact your marriage was over years ago. Let it go, go and have fun, find yourself or whatever and maybe settle down if you find somebody more compatible with you.

Most women would come on here guilt ridden at being unfaithful to their husbands(at least the ones who care). It’s quite telling you show no remorse here.

I think you should own up to your husband and leave. You clearly are unfulfilled and don’t love your husband. Let him go, and find someone you actually want.

Food for thought. Time to go offline and edge towards a not very satisfactory outcome on this. I think in the back of my mind my life is about to change

You're really reaching there, aren't you?

For what exactly?

”..exactly ?”. I haven’t the faintest idea

I'm not sure that's fair. It's well documented that monogamous women often lose interest in sex with the same man after the end of the honeymoon period, and find it hard to combine the distance required for good sex with the closeness required for a good marriage. The OP experiencing lust with a new man doesn't mean her husband is a poor lover

Just introduce your DH to pegging very slowly....just saying!

Your poor husband.

You are not the first person to have done this and you most certainly won’t be the last; it’s not ideal but nobody died.

It’s called passion and now you are looking for (and deserve) constructive support. I see no benefit in telling him, instead maybe focus on trying to make things enjoyable for yourselves, both in and out of bed in the future. You can’t out the genie back in the bottle but you can use the genie’s energy.