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What would you do about this?

7 replies

ElectraBunny · 05/05/2008 23:51

I met a man recently when I was out. It was a really strange love at first sight thing which took me by surprise because I hadn't believed in it before, but there is a really intense feeling when we look at each other. I know it can't actually be love but still...

However, he doesn't speak much English. Usually at the moment I try to avoid getting heavily involved with people because I have just come out of a horrible break up, was ill last year and generally my life is a bit chaotic. The problem is that I can't find out what he expects out of this, if anything because of the language barrier. I am also worried that I'm getting deeper feelings for him and that I could end up getting hurt. I was seeing another guy before but stopped because I prefer this one...

I don't know whether I should be making more of an effort about the language thing, but I also know very little about his culture. He's also 5 years younger than me (I'm 27) and he may not stay in the UK anyway...

So should I try to cool it off or make more effort or what? The other thing is that my parents will hit the roof about it because they don't like me seeing anyone.

Sorry about how disjointed this is but I'm confused and you know how you see someone and you don't know where it's going if anywhere.

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Tortington · 06/05/2008 00:16

wtf have your parents got to do with the price of eggs? your 27 not 15

does it have to go somewhere? that sounds rather desperate

cant you just have an amazing time, good sex etc?

ElectraBunny · 06/05/2008 00:23

Yes, I know but tell that to them lol. It is a problem I have.

What do you mean desperate? I'm far from desperate about any relationship - but I don't know what he wants....that's what I mean.

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WanderingTrolley · 06/05/2008 00:31

Tell your parents nowt.

3kids1cat · 06/05/2008 00:41

I'd say decide what you want first and just try and keep it going along that path. Tbh if he's 22 I can't really see him wanting to settle down or get too serious, but you never know.

Enjoy whatever happens and don't get bogged down with what he,or your parents might be thinking.

SittingBull · 06/05/2008 05:39

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littlewoman · 06/05/2008 07:20

Just make sure he doesn't want his green card, or whatever they call it here (sorry. I am NOT being racist, but you have to be aware of these possibilities). I don't think I would bother thinking 'long term' about a relationship where you couldn't communicate with the fella. But then, I've haven't met a bloke that stuns me to my socks when I look at him. Maybe I would do then!!

ElectraBunny · 06/05/2008 07:28

Thanks for replies. Well as I say I am usually not happy to get too involved and try to keep everything light. I felt last week though that he was quite intense about it so that concerned me but maybe I misunderstood.

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