Boyfriend said I am judgemental because of this…am I?

[Histypop]

Boyfriend of around 6 months. Attended a family christening with him today with all his extended family. I had met a few already but this was meeting everyone officially. I have 1 child who boyfriend hasn’t met yet, my general rule of thumb is that I should wait to close to the year mark.
his family all seemed like nice people but were a bit ‘lairy’ and swore a lot, even in front of the children. Every second work was F or B and even C without any consideration for their being around 15 kids in their company, all in primary school and younger. This shocked me. The kids were also swearing with everyone finding this funny.
also to add it was a family meal- not a booze up.
boyfriend asked me what I thought afterwards and I said I liked everyone and they really welcomed me but that I was surprised at the bad language around the kids. I said my own child would be looking at me in shock if they were there and probably wouldn’t have ever been around that kind of language and I wouldn’t want them hearing that.
he said I’m very judgemental and am judging his family when I’ve only met them once and now he’s going to feel worried whenever I’m there in their company again.
was I wrong to say anything? I wanted to be honest

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@Histypop
If he didn't want to hear anything bad he shouldn't asked the question, I'm like you someone wants my opinion I give them the truth.

I would judge them too. It’s not a relationship I would really want to continue for the simple fact I wouldn’t my child around their behaviour.

Why wouldn’t you mention something that’s so very obviously wrong!

You’ve got standards and him and his family very clearly don’t.

Personally I think this is a deal breaker, unless you never invite your own DC to family events, which is just not going to work.

It would put me off, enough to rethink if I want to be around them with my child over the years. It’s bad enough having to hear swearing in casual conversations on the train so I personally wouldn't want it to be a regular family feature. Nothing wrong with being judgemental in these type of circumstances.

If his family swear too much and he doesn't think they are that bad then this relationship isn't going to work. If you are wanting another child in the future then you need to have the same parenting styles.

I would be judging too. I would never be able to take my child to Christmas or birthday parties if his family are there which is an automatic relationship killer.

One of my brothers is very eloquent of speech, very well spoken, caring, funny and intelligent, but, he swears a fair bit, it’s a real shame because when my kids are there I cringe every time he does it. I’ve had chats, but he just can’t help himself even though he agrees it’s not good in front of the kids. I struggle with it because he’s supposed to be someone to look up to, and in all other ways, he is. He’s my brother though, I keep a lot of our social interactions just us, because I don’t care about him swearing, just wish he’d refrain in front of the kids, and he swears a lot less when they are around. However, I could not date someone who saw zero issue with this and his whole family were constantly swearing, that’s a choice, and I wouldn’t make that choice

She was talking about the word "work". Didn't you mean work not word?

Don't you think that if he can he swear less when your children are around he could actually stop it altogether if he chose? Does he swear in front of your mother/grandmother/at work? Most 14 year old boys know perfectly well when they can and can't swear.

That would be it for me. I wouldn't let my child near any of them. The fact he saw it as normal and saw you as judgemental would be enough for me as well. That would be the end.