I have written about this before but my family and friend are too busy leading their own lives so I need a handhold.
my husband (50) is going through some mid life crisis and part of this is he wants to be apart from me,
things have not been great for a while but we have got lots of strains in our life including a daughter who has been ill for a while which involves her being mute. I have been diagnosed with a benign brain tumour and we both have very stressful jobs.
he had taken to sleeping on the sofa and I kept on telling him that it made me feel rejected. He also does not really care when I am ill, I had to go to the mri with a friend for my brain scan.
I have now accepted a job which comes with accommodation, which means that he is spending a lot of time in our own house, leaving me and our children in the work flat.
this week, he had blocked my mobile phone number and he refuses to talk.
he is undergoing a lot of work stress and has an important exam week after next which is clearly affecting his mental well-being. I don’t know when I am going to see him, he just shows up at my flat and won’t return calls. We still need to talk but he got told off for having his phone at work and now takes this to the extreme.m
i have been with him since I was 19 and i am now 45. I don’t know who I am without him and nobody understands the care of our daughter like him. I have lost my person who I turned too and I am completely lost. He will not accept help but he really does need it. I care deeply about him and u don’t understand how he can just cut off all contact and only communicate to our kids. I am not sleeping very well as I feel so sad and just want things to be back the way they were. My brain goes over and over how I could fix things and what I have done wrong then worries about the future and this overwhelming feeling of loneliness. I am completely lost and tired of pretending to people. I don’t understand how he could suddenly hate me so much.