To have a 2nd baby? Or only child!

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I'm really not sure.. part of me wants a 2nd and a big part likes how it is!

How did you decide? I don't want to regret.. I also worry that I won't have enough time or attention for both..

Also how on earth do you manage? 😂 I can just about manage x1 (who is high needs)

It's all about whether you can afford number 2.

Ish... it would take some planning but yes we could manage

Hard choice to make. All I can say is that as an adult only child, I would like a sibling, however plenty of people will come along to say they have no relationship with theirs!

When you look T the pictures on the mantelpiece at the end of your life will you be happy looking at pictures of ‘only’ the three of you.

Good luck.

For us it was about a burning desire to have another baby I guess. You would just know when the time is right.

Time and attention is stretched, that's been the hardest part probably. But overall it's been a positive. It's a leap of faith really. I really believe though that there are so many routes to happiness. I'm happy I had two, but I feel confident I'd have been happy with one too (we had fertility issues for first and second, so I really pondered this!). I'd say the best reason to have another is because YOU want to. I don't really buy into this idea of having another to provide a sibling / playmate for the first.

I always wanted four but when I had my youngest I knew I didn't want any more (I have 3).

Same.

I have two (b and g), and it's just lovely to see how they get on, how they entertain each other, depend on each other etc, I think two is a lovely number and I wouldnt change it.

What about a 7 year age gap?!

Agree, two are a nice number which is manageable
I applaud people who manage more than two though as I would have liked a third one but don't think I can cope.

I wasn't sure either, but my mirena coil was pissing me and my husband off. Switched from that to natural cycles, i clearly did a bad job of that and we had a sort of surprise pregnancy! I was actually so happy when I found out and so was my husband.

Possibly that isn't very helpful but sometimes these things do happen and work out great.

Editing to say I wouldn't plan a third, but would be happy if we had another surprise. Unlikely now as I'm 41

There's another active thread on this same issue.
Have one if you want to but not to give your dc a sibling.

We'd always planned to have another eventually but I held my newborn nephew and my body ached for another, DD was born 9 months later.
On managing, it's actually not been as hard as I expected, your second really has no choice but to slot into your routine so in that sense it's been quite easy. The thing I struggled with most was lack of sleep but I just make sure I get some any point that I can.