My job has been stressful, and I’m balancing being 30 weeks pregnant while trying to meet my partner’s high expectations. He wants sex every day because his exes provided that, and I’m the first woman he’s lived with who’s carrying his child. Recently, I caught the flu after a 15-hour flight. While I rested, he cleaned, shoveled snow, grocery shopped, and cooked for me. He got upset that I didn’t help or have sex with him that night, even though I was sick. Later, I woke up to do some small chores but didn’t finish everything, which made him angrier because I didn’t wake him to help or feed him.
The next morning, I woke up feeling worse and saw him packing his suitcase. He said he’s exhausted by me, left for a few days, and didn’t answer my calls. I went to my mom’s house, where she’s been taking care of me, but I’ve been crying every night, losing my appetite, and fearing for my baby’s health. When he finally answered, he said he’s at peace with me being away, thinks I’m making excuses for not being sexual or attentive, and wants me to change immediately. I feel like I’m failing him now and will keep failing during postpartum. I don’t want to give up, but I’m overwhelmed and can’t enjoy intimacy with so much pressure. What should I do?