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Accepting that I will die alone

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PWBELCHER · 18/01/2025 15:59

I don't enjoy anything. I am accepting at my age that my life might be over. If something does happen, I need to get the word out there about how I lived. Anything. I would never want to die nameless and forgotten. But the sad reality is that there might not be even five people to carry my casket.

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Strawberriesandpears · 18/01/2025 16:06

I am sorry you are feeling so low. Why do you feel you will be alone? Is it because of a lack of family? If so, I understand. I have similar worries.

But maybe you will have friends who remember you? Or if you are really worried about practicalities of your funeral, you could just opt not to have one. I think that is what I will do.

PrincessofWells · 18/01/2025 16:13

What age are you?

Augustus40 · 19/01/2025 09:13

I will be having a direct cremation. Only one relative but am against expensive funerals anyway.

AgentJohnson · 19/01/2025 09:28

I need to get the word out there about how I lived. Anything. I would never want to die nameless and forgotten.

Unless you’ve have made a significant contribution to mankind (and even then there’s no guarantee) or are planning to do something that would lead to notoriety, I suggest you start making friends while you are living. I’m not trying to be flippant but what have you done or what are you doing to be someone’s friend?

Cynic17 · 19/01/2025 09:40

What's wrong with dying alone? Once we're dead, we won't know anything about it anyway.
And unless we're Mozart or Shakespeare, none of us will be remembered after we die.
I sincerely hope I do die alone tbh - much better than having people around my bed just waiting for me to kick the bucket! And I won't be having a funeral, so no "casket" to carry. Nice and simple.

PollyIndia · 19/01/2025 09:50

Your life isn't over yet. Rather than worrying about your funeral, try and create some joy in your living life. I know you say you don't enjoy anything, and maybe you should speak to the doctor if thats proper depression, but why not volunteer? They have a programme locally to me in London where you can befriend a lonely person in sheltered housing. I think everyone gains something from that. There must be something you can do to create some kind of enjoyment during your finite life?

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