DP has been renewing car insurance and other life admin tasks and has been incredibly negative for hours, lots of huffing and moaning and sounding off to me about customer service etc. I get it. I've tried my best to listen and be sympathetic but I was trying to cook lunch and still listening to him go on and on about still being sent around in circles by a chatbot or whatever, and his outbursts of frustration and I basically just reached my limit and asked him if he'd consider putting it away and doing it later. I work full time so I want to enjoy my weekends when possible, whereas DP is retired and could be doing this task any day of the week.
He's now very upset with me. He said getting it done was important to him and all he was looking for was a bit of compassion. He says why should my needs trump his? Whereas I feel like I've just reached my limit of negativity for the day and I just want to relax and enjoy the lunch I've cooked for us and the rest of the afternoon.
How do I support my partner while also having boundaries for the sake of my own mental health? Sometimes I just reach a point where I feel like I can't deal with the stress and negativity anymore so I either have to request that he stops sharing it, or I have to remove myself from the situation - both of which he hates.