Hi, so this started about a year ago.
I had a friend that was quite flirty with my husband when they were together. Mainly when drink was involved. I kept an eye on it but didn’t think much of it.
1 day I was with a group of girls including her, and she was talking about some others girls husband, basically saying she could do a lot better and she didn’t think much of him etc. I was a bit surprised as he was a really nice guy and he certainly wasn’t unattractive. I don’t know why but I asked her what she thought of my husband. She basically laughed and said some quite horrible things about him. Kind of the same as before, I could do a lot better, and she didn’t think he was attractive etc etc.
I was quite taken back by this as ( I thought ) they had always got on and he’s far from unattractive.
Anyway, this ended up getting back to my husband from 1 of the women that was there. He seemed absolutely gutted about it and wasn’t himself for a week or so. Very quiet.
Since then, he’s joined the gym. He goes literaly every single day lifting weights. He’s got huge over the last year. He has his hair cut and beard trimmed every week. He has a sunbed every week and every other. He’s had lots more ( visible ) tattoos since.
My question is, is he doing all this because he wants to change this women’s opinion? Or do you think it’s deeper than that, that he feels more than just her think that? Also, why would she be flirting so much with someone she deemed ‘unattractive’ and not worthy of her friend?
I have questioned him and he just said there’s nothing wrong with bettering yourself.