Together since we were 18 years old. 3 children, 20 year marriage. Affair in 2018, the day my mum died, 'everyone was so sad at home, we did have sex anymore' (baby born in 2017). The usual.
My question, I haven't met her or spoken to her, she does spend most weekends / holidays with my kids. I smile when they say what they have done together and all the fun times.
How to cope with her being part of my life? Well, my kids life? She is ok with them, pleasant, spends a lot of money on them, holidays of a lifetime, £50 Christmas gifts etc.
I find it hard to accept her in their life and how to move forward. I have no intention of meeting her unless forced, I imagine she feels the same about me.