Anybody else’s mother love drama?

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I’m talking like my mum needs it like she needs oxygen in her lungs, she thrives off it. So much so she creates it out of thin air, allllllllll the time.

The latest is my sister in law is pregnant and I’m going to her baby shower next week, when wrapping up the gifts I’ve picked up for her over the last few months I took a photo and showed my mum. Stupidly was hoping for a ‘wow that’s so nice of you’ or ‘those sleepsuits are adorable’ anything positive.

I should have known who I was speaking to and she replied with ‘Why have you spent so much f**king money on a person who doesn’t give a crap about you’ a little backstory, I also have just had a little boy and my sister in law didn’t buy the best gifts for me, but I’m not like that, I treat people how I want to be treated and enjoy buying presents. Anyway I thought that’s why she maybe reacted the way she did but it wasn’t.

My younger sister still lives at home and told me she overheard my mum bitching about me to my dad. Saying I never spend that amount of money on her (it’s a pack of sleepsuits, bubble bath, teething toy and a book 🥴) so essentially she’s reacted out of jealousy and created yet again more drama.

Sorry I guess I just needed to rant, my mum
has been like this my whole life, you cannot do anything without her having a negative opinion on it. Graduating university, getting a new job, a promotion etc. she cannot show happiness for you at all.

Anybody else have a mum like it?

Yes! I now operate on a strict need-to-know basis. I probably wouldn’t have told her I was even going, let alone taken a photo of the presents.

Yes, I do, it's a combination of emotional immaturity, attention seeking and poor mental health. It's all on them.

I would read about NPD in respect of your mother and see how much of this relates to her behaviour.

Put her on an information diet. Would also suggest you reduce all interactions with her going forward. It is not possible to have a relationship with someone that disordered of thinking. Women like your mother also cannot do relationships do need a willing enabler to help them. Step forward your dad. Your sister acts as a flying monkey who does have your interests at heart either. People like your mother, sister and your dad too are really not worth bothering about.

Absolute, my mum would have been the same. Never a nice word about anything or anyone. She takes being contrary to no nuclear levels. The way you have described your mother is uncanny.

Wasn't until I learned what healthy relationships actually look like that I realised it wasn't normal. I'm NC now for my own sanity.

I don't think your mother will change because I honestly don't think they know any different. They're right and everyone else is wrong.

Like you say just don't tell her anything she can instantly rebuke or be nasty or negative about and accept the chat behind your back is the about you it's about her.

*Isn't about you

Triangulation. Victim, saviour, perpetrator. She will always be the victim.