Have been friends with Mary for 23 years. Godparents to each others children. Lots of time spent with each other, on our own and with family.
Husbands get on great too as do children.
One of Mary's siblings moved closer a few years ago and she seemed to be spending more time with them. Not a problem, we always saw each other on important dates and phoned at least once a week. Could always turn to each other for advice and support.
A few years ago I had some bad mental health problems, followed my an accident in which I was housebound.
No support from Mary at all, although I was disappointed I know people have their own lives and problems.
Mary lost a relative, I was in touch a lot offering support, invites for coffee etc. She was heartbroken and said she couldn't leave the house etc.
Gave her space but sent regular messages, said I could pop round but she didn't seem to want my company.
Found out she was going out and even went on holiday.
Mary has always said that she thinks of us as family and me the sister she never had. We did have the kind of relationship where we didn't see each other for long periods but when we did would be lovely and normal.
My DH has been diagnosed with cancer, we haven't told many people but he spoke to Mary's husband a few weeks ago and told him.
I haven't heard a thing from her. I have realised that for whatever reason she doesn't want to have a friendship. But I really thought she would be in touch after this news.
Im just so upset and it feels like I'm grieving, I don't have many friends or family and I don't know how to get over this.
Any advice please?