Who on here does or did Claire's Law check as standard? (Even when no concerns)

[Nicole875]

Just that really..
After reading a post on her recently about someone being contacted by police about a CL check, I've been curious about how many people actually request a CL check as standard as part of the "vetting" process when getting with a new partner or thinking of introducing new partner to children or inviting into your home?

Personally, I would consider it as something that should be done regardless. No matter what. I fled an abusive marriage years ago and waited a long time before meeting my now partner.... From the beginning he was lovely and I didn't even for one second imagine that he'd have any form for DV or abusive of ANY kind... However, I STILL did the CL check, simply because I had a young child to think about AND because I didn't want to take any sort of risk.

I'm really shocked that MORE women don't do the CL check as standard. It should be like a formality in my opinion.

Someone seems great at interview and meets all the criteria of the job spec, but any decent organisation would STILL check references. Why wouldn't they?

Thoughts welcome x

I did a Clare's law but sadly it took too long to come back so was too late for me.

After he attacked me I did follow it through to conviction though so others know and it'll be on his record

I did one on my new partner and nothing came back. As in no one came back to me to say "all clear" is it usual that they don't come back to you?

No, that's not usual. When I used the service, what you suggest is exactly what happened, ie the police got in touch to say 'all clear" (words to that effect). It took about two weeks from me submitting the enquiry.

Out of interest what do the police tell you when a CL request is made?

I had one few years back, I found the information pretty shit, all they said was he had previous DV with a partner. Never told me what, how many times

Surely if he’s committed DV on an ex you run not question it

if all clear they usually phone
serious they ask you into the police station and this is only in the past 18 months for us as I did a CL on my daughters boyfriend. They called her in.. he tried to bluff his way out of it as we took all her things from the flat. He then went onto attack her on the stairs screaming obscenities. He was arrested and charged and jailed, due out soon. He had a long list of previous sadly.

That’s what I thought surely it doesn’t matter how many times once would be enough 🤔?

Surely it doesn’t matter how many times as it wouldn’t change your reaction, you’d leave, let others know not to contact/provide your location etc for one or ten counts of domestic violence.

I've done two and both found out horrible things.
I dont think they should formality because I was sa as a child by a man who was recently shared on a Facebook group as a pedofile from a girl who did his Claire's law although very glad she was safe it made me delete my social media reading my story being shared around locally.

I do believe there should be a register like sex offenders where we can look up partners and it would say if they were a domestic abuser

Also as someone that done two claires laws one where the man had 15 disclosures including rape and one where the first line was is a high risk domestic abuser. What you recieve depends on the crime and it is read out in chronological order. For example 1/1/2025 Tom was at a scene where he was acting In a threatening way towards a women no further action was taken 5/5/24 Tom was arrested after spitting on a female
7/5/22 Tom was in a pub fight
4/1/20 Tom was arrested under suspicion of rape and blackmail no futher action 6/1/18 Tom stalked and harrassed his ex multiple times including sending flowers and presents ...
Obviously name changed. It's a 1000 fine for exposing a Claire's law and there is no aftercare which means if you hear disturbing news you then have to continue your day. Also and this is as a victim of both child sexual abuse and domestic violence the man is entitled to a privet life and by knowing Claire's law you do get to see all their data if you kept asking the police for some they might begin to share less data as it's very sensative information you are receiving and please remember not just their story offer a victim too

My friend got quite a bit of info and the police were really helpful. One of them talked to her honestly about their take on the incident described and their experience of dealing with very similar incidents which really helped her in getting perspective, along with her partners account of course. She's never regretted her decision to progress with the relationship.

To those saying once should be enough as a disclosure well it isn't.

These men are manipulative, they do disclose to you an incident previously making out the ex was crazy. When your in the situation you believe them so when police come and say there is previous you think ohhh yeah he said something.

If you knew the whole picture from police and the many incidents you'd take notice that he's a liar. Happened to myself. Police let me down massively

He even now drives past my house years later, sends me horrible letters and police have told me it isn't him, I need to get over the marriage. ( Which I am!!) Police can't always be trusted to help